"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Went out with a woman who's somewhere between 30 and 35 (don't know the age, she didn't tell, playfully LOL). We drove in her car, went somewhere quiet, was the first time we met after talking about a week Instagram. I was not expecting sex so I was calm, but I liked her reactions, moans when we were kissing and touching each other. Now after the meeting she tells me "Next time we have sex, no need to complicate it any further".

Do I set next time up? Or let her?

And one more thing: it was the hot texting and part sexting that led the situation up to here. From here until the supposed next time, do I keep sexting with her? Or let her miss it a bit and make her want the real thing more
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do I set next time up? Or let her?
I would set it up, but not a big deal imo.
And one more thing: it was the hot texting and part sexting that led the situation up to here.
This falls right in line with what @Amante Silvestre talks allot about and how I myself like to play the texting game. You've broken down barriers, built comfort, escalated and set the pace, through texting with minimal effort and without having even seen her once. Without knowing anymore about the finer details of the dialogue, I would suggest keeping up the sexual banter at the same pace as you have been going at. Maybe, Amante could chime in. It really can make it that much more an effortless and seamless interaction, once an individual understands the mechanics and function of the tool of messaging. It's an art in and of itself, that I admit, can blow a set out, but it can be a game changer and the reward far outweighs the risk, imo.
 

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A 30 year good looking women tells you ‘I have to have sex with you next time I see you.’

And

You do all that, and now you don’t know what to do?


Trolling and not humble territory here.
 

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A 30 year good looking women tells you ‘I have to have sex with you next time I see you.’

And

You do all that, and now you don’t know what to do?


Trolling and not humble territory here.
Not at all, just wanted some thoughts on how much to push that "next time" and whether to keep the sexting going on or not, that's all. I don't troll, you're confusing me with someone else. I know what to do, doesn't hurt to have second thoughts :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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