"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
calling a woman when she takes long to reply to text
- Thread starter edegoge
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MoreThanSmooth
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Unless it's about plans. If it's about a date or something important, then call and confirm either way.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
MoreThanSmooth
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Err no, I advocate not f*cking this woman if you don't want to f*ck her. You don't trust or like her but you're screwing her? Sounds like she's got you wrapped round her pinkie and she's clowning you.
Also, we hadn't decided a time to meet this morning so in any case we would have had to chat before meeting.
Dash Riprock
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Dude, who he f*uck cares if she takes a few hours to reply? It's like you're sitting around, have no life, no options, totally beta, waiting for a girl to text you back. And when when she doesn't--immediately--you go nuclear AFC.
I take hours to reply sometimes. Sometimes days. Because I have a life and don't give a s*hit. Unless it's a confirmation for a date or similar. JHC, you have thin skin.
Are you a snowflake or something? If not, prove it, and man up. Tough love I know, but I see this s*hit on SS all the time: "She hasn't replied in 30 minutes, I'm being dumped, oh no!!!"
C'mon man.
TheProspect
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These are the titles of your last 3 threads:
- "How do I stop raging over hot women?"
- "Should I reply to her message?"
- "What should you do when a women insults you?"
...and now you're lost again and asking what to do when a "skank" goes 40 minutes without replying to you.
Lol maybe just turn your phone off and go for a walk dude, you don't seem like a busy guy
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
marmel75
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Oh yeah? Have you been sitting outside her window stalking her too? When did she get in the shower? How long was she in there?
Or were you watching through the window as another dude pounded her senseless wishing it was you in there instead?