B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
telling this girl I used to date that my anxiety ruined our relationship. I can't stand the thought of her thinking I'm weak. How do I deal with this?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I regret...
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
By doing nothing. Move on. It's over. Learn and get better. The more you try to "fix" things, the bigger hole you'll dig. By anxiety, do you mean PA or general anxiety? And if she left you because of it (either issue) she's the one with the problem not you. No one's perfect.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I can't deal with it being over. She tried so hard to make it work but I put this emotional wall up. I wasn't dealing with my issues and that's my problem, not hers. I'm a man and I'm supposed to be a protector and provider. And I wanna be alpha too but I'm aspergers. I feel like im an alpha soul trapped in an aspergers mind. The anxiety was general.
You decide on the best course of action to best repair your personal issues for the next girl. It may even go as far as requiring psych therapy and/or professionally prescribed drugs in that process.
Your admission of your anxiety issue was taken as a sign of personal weakness with this girl…
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I don't want another girl...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
and I can't deal with her thinking I'm weak...
Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
Ok, your best bet then is to go NC for a least a few months to try and get her to miss you. This does work sometimes. Then, reach out, and ask her to do something non-romantic like lunch to "catch up." See where it goes, but DON'T PUSH or get NEEDY. You'll kill it. Remember, full NC for now. Good luck.
That’s an anxiety driven response. Deal with that issue.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
and?
Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
You're not "Weak." We all have issues. She'll think you're weak if you PUSH, keep contacting her, or acting all NEEDY. Date other women to practice and get your mojo back. I know Asperger's is tough and can make relationships challenging, but we all have our s*hit to deal with.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Cant do that sorry...
Murk
Master Don Juan
Then continue to stress and worry, just don’t harm yourself.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I want her back
Regret is Always about the past. Recognize the past for what it was and was not, and live in the present while continuing to improve yourself for your future…
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
OP you are fine the way you are. No need to waste money on anything. You are who you are and you don't need to change for anyone. Strength in our society is just non existant. Most decisions are made passively because you gave no importance to begin with. Live on brother!
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I'm not fine the way I am. What do you mean gave no importance? The regret I feel for the decision I made is very important to me...