European-DJ
Master Don Juan
Fellow DJ's,
After long absence from the site, I am now back to get some guidance on a situation that I am very, very unfamiliar with.
Background:
I met this girl ~2 years ago, and for the last year and a half she has been the last thing on my mind. We casually hooked up every 2nd to 3rd week, but she wanted more than that. After asking me twice "where we were heading", I told her straight up that I did not see it develop into a relationship – I told her this both times.
Anyway, things changed this summer after I went abroad to work. During my summer job, I would receive her daily messages and reply whenever I felt like. Gradually, the texts diminished and by the time I returned, she was not writing me anymore.
I reached out to her and asked, in a teasing way, why she wasn't stalking me anymore. She told me that she was not interested in seeing me again, as she had felt utterly alone during my work abroad and that she badly wanted a relationship with me, which I clearly did not. This is when the tables flipped.
I felt a strong urge to see her one more time, and for the next 3 months (until mid-November/start December) I became overly available and texting her multiple times a day (mind you, I would usually text this girl once every 2nd day or so). Eventually, I landed her and we had sex, twice. I expected my hunger to disappear after this, but instead I became indifferent towards my “main-plate” and was putting everything into this girl I was utterly careless about for 1½ years.
The other night we meet at my place, which I expected would result in sex per usual. Nevertheless, after a very nice and playful date we went to my place were things went sour. After watching half a movie, she became profoundly sad and silent and ended up telling me that we shouldn’t speak no more after which she left (shortened version). Over the next few days I have been trying to reach out to her, as I have become completely head-over-heals for this girl. However, her replies are distant and she is clearly not as interested as she used to be.
My question is:
Do any of you have advice or experiences with the tables turning like this - Is it possible to reestablish her interest level? Or should I just throw the towel in the ring and go No Contact?
/European
After long absence from the site, I am now back to get some guidance on a situation that I am very, very unfamiliar with.
Background:
I met this girl ~2 years ago, and for the last year and a half she has been the last thing on my mind. We casually hooked up every 2nd to 3rd week, but she wanted more than that. After asking me twice "where we were heading", I told her straight up that I did not see it develop into a relationship – I told her this both times.
Anyway, things changed this summer after I went abroad to work. During my summer job, I would receive her daily messages and reply whenever I felt like. Gradually, the texts diminished and by the time I returned, she was not writing me anymore.
I reached out to her and asked, in a teasing way, why she wasn't stalking me anymore. She told me that she was not interested in seeing me again, as she had felt utterly alone during my work abroad and that she badly wanted a relationship with me, which I clearly did not. This is when the tables flipped.
I felt a strong urge to see her one more time, and for the next 3 months (until mid-November/start December) I became overly available and texting her multiple times a day (mind you, I would usually text this girl once every 2nd day or so). Eventually, I landed her and we had sex, twice. I expected my hunger to disappear after this, but instead I became indifferent towards my “main-plate” and was putting everything into this girl I was utterly careless about for 1½ years.
The other night we meet at my place, which I expected would result in sex per usual. Nevertheless, after a very nice and playful date we went to my place were things went sour. After watching half a movie, she became profoundly sad and silent and ended up telling me that we shouldn’t speak no more after which she left (shortened version). Over the next few days I have been trying to reach out to her, as I have become completely head-over-heals for this girl. However, her replies are distant and she is clearly not as interested as she used to be.
My question is:
Do any of you have advice or experiences with the tables turning like this - Is it possible to reestablish her interest level? Or should I just throw the towel in the ring and go No Contact?
/European