The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Hiccup]

Update: Feeling Okay No contact done by me or her. But still, I deep down hoping that she contacts me and say I love u too me. Want this hope or feeling to go away.

 

[Gan]

Day 6

I miss her like crazy. I was doing ok until I made the mistake of looking through her social media to see what she has been up to. It sucks seeing that she seems just fine, while I'm here thinking about her every day. I've been doing things to get my mind off of her but there's always going to be a time during the day where I'm alone and I'll be thinking about her and missing her. I want to message her again so bad but I know it's going to make me feel much worse. Still hoping she'll message me soon.

 

[gettinit]

I'm at about 80 days here and she still crosses my mind every few days. No bad feelings, just random thoughts when I get reminded by something. After 3 years together, there are a lot of triggers, so I think that its just that, random thoughts. In the first few weeks, I thought that it would take a lot longer to get to this point and I have what I think might be an even better girlfriend in the pipe. Only one date so far (stellar), but fun email conversations daily for over a month since our schedules haven't matched up. When I first started exchanging messages, we had so much common ground that I thought that it might be my ex messing with me. She also has the same first name as my ex lol.
Anyway, just some words of encouragement. It WILL get better. Just follow the rules of the game and work on yourself.
Thanks all for the support!

 

[noBSgames]

I still have triggers.. we kinda went back and forth on Wed.. but she finally removed me or whatever.. I told her to stop being noisy it feels good no longer to feel like I was bound

 

[vpn]

NC - Day 45

After reading this thread for a couple of weeks, I finally decided to share my own experience of the no contact challenge. It was very difficult at first... The first time I started it, I managed to last about a week before texting her. She replied and we actually went to the movies a couple of days later where she showed very confusing body language - rubbing legs against mine, etc. after telling me only a week ago that we can only be friends. Didn't act on any of it as it felt like complete bullsh*t. Anyway... fast forward a couple of days, we were texting again and I made the mistake of telling her how badly I felt after she friendzoned me. She got quite upset and started accusing me that I want to make her feel bad about her decision to stay only friends. 45 days since then there hasn't been any contact, regardless of how much I had to fight with myself to reach this point. She was ghosting me for a while up until about two weeks ago when she started liking stuff I post on Facebook and watching my stories on Messenger. It is amazing what a single like can do to someone... anyway, she didn't stop then and yesterday continued to do this (liking a couple of my posts). I don't really need this fake attention so today I gathered the courage to remove her from all social media and get this over with.

What I can say to the other guys who are reading: just remove HER from all social media you use and do not check her profiles anywhere. It won't help you in any way, even worse - it will set you back massively in overcoming her.

I will try to report back for Day 60. Wish me luck, almost there!

 

[noBSgames]

My friend's who still keeps in somewhat contact with my ex (limited distance) told me on Saturday she was fishing to see if I was dating anyone yet.. so knowing my friend she was like you know Mike he has all the hoes lol..

We both are confused why she even cares if she's "married" now.

 

[dude99]

My friend's who still keeps in somewhat contact with my ex (limited distance) told me on Saturday she was fishing to see if I was dating anyone yet.. so knowing my friend she was like you know Mike he has all the hoes lol..

We both are confused why she even cares if she's "married" now.

They care because 90% of
Women share this mentality :

"I can date/marry/sleep with/ do what ever I want too when I want too but you had better be sitting waiting pining over me so if I need my ego stroked or a free dinner I can call you up at any time and you can remind me how great I am."

When you date and move on it tells them you forgot how great they are and it's a form of rejection and we all know how most women can't handle rejection.

 

[noBSgames]

This is what I logged in and saw today..

 

[noBSgames]

Her last one is so full of it sounds like she’s still saying she loves me but because she married this guy for money she’s stuck lol thank god that’s not my problem anymore

 

[Reykhel]

View attachment 1195 View attachment 1196 This is what I logged in and saw today..

hahahahahahahaha

what the fvck

 

[dustmuffin]

Day 6

I miss her like crazy. I was doing ok until I made the mistake of looking through her social media to see what she has been up to. It sucks seeing that she seems just fine, while I'm here thinking about her every day. I've been doing things to get my mind off of her but there's always going to be a time during the day where I'm alone and I'll be thinking about her and missing her. I want to message her again so bad but I know it's going to make me feel much worse. Still hoping she'll message me soon.

Delete her off all social media. Delete email and phone number. Why do you want to punish yourself by looking at her social media?

 

[Gan]

Delete her off all social media. Delete email and phone number. Why do you want to punish yourself by looking at her social media?

I'm doing better. Would've been day 33 of NC but I broke it in the first of this month. I asked her for one last favor then I said I'd never bother her again. We haven't spoken since and I'm back on my gym grind.

And I don't want to block her or anything. It seems childish.

 

[dustmuffin]

I'm doing better. Would've been day 33 of NC but I broke it in the first of this month. I asked her for one last favor then I said I'd never bother her again. We haven't spoken since and I'm back on my gym grind.

And I don't want to block her or anything. It seems childish.

It's not childish. You are protecting yourself from possible pain and agony. at least delete her. You will find yourself creeping back to take a look when she posts about her great new relationship. Seems like you are a glutton for punishment.

I was in your position two years ago. You aren't special. Many people have been where you are. Delete..... Block....forget.......

 

[noBSgames]

My ex posted something on instantgram and the only reason I clicked like was because it was something pertaining to the lost of the unborn child we were almost going to have.. however now it seems shes using that to try to bate me into liking more stuff like (not that I trust her to tell the truth) but she posted a picture of some celebration but it's blue and pink cupcakes with a angels on them but no one is in the picture, now I have a feeling I should of never liked the first picture from the start.

 

[Magotrox]

No contact should be a pattern. But don't be doing nothing. Go fvck some other girls. That's the best way. GO FOR MANY OR GO FOR NONE, Pook said. And it works.

 

[Gan]

It's not childish. You are protecting yourself from possible pain and agony. at least delete her. You will find yourself creeping back to take a look when she posts about her great new relationship. Seems like you are a glutton for punishment.

I was in your position two years ago. You aren't special. Many people have been where you are. Delete..... Block....forget.......

If only it was that easy. We have a mutual friend (who's my best bud), and unless he's willing to delete/block her, I can't really delete her without feeling down. I don't want to ask him to do so either cause it makes me feel weak.

Give me about 2-3 weeks and I'll be completely over her. She used to be in my mind 24/7 for weeks after the NC and I'd wake up feeling depressed every day. That's no longer an issue, as I'm back on focusing on myself again. Been going to the gym religiously like before and I spend my free time however I want to without feeling like sh*t.

 

[vpn]

NC - Day 45

After reading this thread for a couple of weeks, I finally decided to share my own experience of the no contact challenge. It was very difficult at first... The first time I started it, I managed to last about a week before texting her. She replied and we actually went to the movies a couple of days later where she showed very confusing body language - rubbing legs against mine, etc. after telling me only a week ago that we can only be friends. Didn't act on any of it as it felt like complete bullsh*t. Anyway... fast forward a couple of days, we were texting again and I made the mistake of telling her how badly I felt after she friendzoned me. She got quite upset and started accusing me that I want to make her feel bad about her decision to stay only friends. 45 days since then there hasn't been any contact, regardless of how much I had to fight with myself to reach this point. She was ghosting me for a while up until about two weeks ago when she started liking stuff I post on Facebook and watching my stories on Messenger. It is amazing what a single like can do to someone... anyway, she didn't stop then and yesterday continued to do this (liking a couple of my posts). I don't really need this fake attention so today I gathered the courage to remove her from all social media and get this over with.

What I can say to the other guys who are reading: just remove HER from all social media you use and do not check her profiles anywhere. It won't help you in any way, even worse - it will set you back massively in overcoming her.

I will try to report back for Day 60. Wish me luck, almost there!

NC - Day 63

Well, challenge is now officially over, but I still see it as an ongoing thing. I definitely feel better and the best tip I can give to anyone initiating the NC challenge is - delete all her social media profiles, do not look/try to look. That is what was setting me back massively...

I still catch myself thinking about her every now and then, but it is not the same as back in October when I started the challenge.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

Older guy here (54). I'm sure its on here somewhere but there are lots of pages.
Take it from experience, there isn't a 60 day challenge.
If your girlfriend dumps you, you simply ask her nicely not to contact you again and then NEVER EVER contact her again for ANY reason.
No calls, no texts, no social media - Delete everything.
Do not respond to her again NEVER EVER for ANY reason.
Women get one chance. If they blow it they regret it. Under no circumstances, no matter how bad it feels at the time you are Steve McQueen/James Bond and John Wayne all rolled into one.
Its like you are dead to them and they are dead to you.

Then you get back on the horse, ride into town and get a new woman - A better one!
Women with integrity do not go behind your back. They communicate that they are unhappy and ask you to work it out with them. Then its up to you.
A monkey is going to swing. Would you **** a monkey?

DING DING DING DING****

TATTOO THIS ON YOUR BRAIN




lol on my bad days I like to pretend I'm Steve McQueen and roam around the country side for days with no phone in my pocket just like he did when he got pissed off on the set of the great escape.

 

[European-DJ]

Day 0:
Today I informed her that I was not interested in simply being her friend, which I initially offered (against everything I stand for), but that I was only interested in a romantic relationship.

I deleted her from social media, including Facebook, and I’m now initiating the 60 day challenge, which will preferably cure me of this Ego driven obsession of her.

After one and a half year with her, I’m not oblivious to the fact that it’ll initially be challenging, but I’m hoping that I’ll come over her using the tips from this post. Not being reminded daily of her through social media will definitely help!

Go!

 

[Overmind]

Day 0

First post on the forum, just broke up and took all measures for No Contact after she showed interest and care and then adamantly began with hypergamic behaviour, I took it as a signal she had already moved on so it's time for me to begin NC.