"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What to do?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Get out of here. Bye. You're getting ignored. Tell 16 y.o girls your 3 week lacrosse experience 30 years ago at a party, pretty sure they'll think you're cool.
Lol. It was 4 years of Division 1 baseball. You have lots to learn. Probably the same person as Richard
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Andrewdiceclay

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She's obviously losing interest but still kind of there. Text her the day of coffee and let us know. If she flakes, not interested.
 

ChristopherColumbus

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NO.
men communicate overtly, women communicate COVERTLY. learn to speak their language.

you have to sub-communicate in the way you talk to her that you dont NEED her in your life. your life is perfectly fine without her. youre the one giving HER the opportunity to MAYBE be a part of it. thats why you need to have multiple women in the line up and a passion beyond girls. it must be clear without outright saying it that she either accepts or risks YOUR REJECTION if she declines. you arent some sex starved simp. you have better things to do.

this is why "meet me at _____ @ 7:30" works. it has more of a subtext that she is an afterthought rather than a priority

in all of your dealings with women, YOU ARE A FREIGHT TRAIN PLOWING FORWARD. they either get out of the way or are DRAGGED ALONG FOR THE RIDE
But be careful that arrogance is not sub-communicated as you may miss some women that way.
 

marmel75

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Date set 8 days out, and bad communication. No real connection.

Radio silence, with just a confirmation the day before, is very poor game. Expect her to be unenthused and likely flake.

2 quick tips from my view:

1. All women mirror. From English to Polish, to South-African, to Italian. From 20 to 30. Doesn't matter. Just seems to be a general woman thing. I've found it constant to deal with.

I don't think it's good to mirror back. If I don't reply to something in 2 hours (genuinly), and she mirrors, I don't mirror her mirror. I consider that overgaming.

2. Be a bit wary of how momentum effects your sets. Wise man once wrote:

There is a tide in the affairs of men, Which taken at the flood, leads on to fortune. Omitted, all the voyage of their life is bound in shallows and in miseries. On such a full sea are we now afloat. And we must take the current when it serves, or lose our ventures.
That's almost a guaranteed flake, IMHO
 
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