Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Good news, I approached my crush in school and got her number. We texted for a bit, than next thing you know she hasn't replied to my last text that I sent 2 days prior to posting this.

Don't worry I didn't double text or triple text her for not replying (used to do this when I was super AFC)

Not really sure on what to do though, been crushing this girl for awhile.
Should I text her again since some days past?
If I see Her again should I say "I didn't know that people don't know how to text" in a chilled tone
What are some ways to go about this. I'm all ears.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You’re overthinking this.

You go to school with her. Just talk to her when you see her at school. Don’t mention her not texting you, what’s the point of that? You have a crush on her, which is a form of pedestalizing. Most girls can tell when a guy likes them. Unless this girl is already interested in you you’re just going to inadvertently turn her off by pestering her with more texts or insinuating when you see her that it bothers you when she doesn’t reply to your text messages.

Remember, most guys text their way out of girls pants.

You’re in high school with her so you know you’re going to be seeing her around, no point texting her incessantly. Strike up a conversation next time you see her, maybe some other members on here can help you with what to say. I’ll just say make sure you’re talking to other girls as well so you don’t approach your crush with a scarcity/needy mentality.
 

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Good news, I approached my crush in school and got her number. We texted for a bit, than next thing you know she hasn't replied to my last text that I sent 2 days prior to posting this.

Don't worry I didn't double text or triple text her for not replying (used to do this when I was super AFC)

Not really sure on what to do though, been crushing this girl for awhile.
Should I text her again since some days past?
If I see Her again should I say "I didn't know that people don't know how to text" in a chilled tone
What are some ways to go about this. I'm all ears.
Men! First, do not do anything what you're planning from above.

That's a super no no.

Kid you are lucky to be on this forum, and you did the right thing to come here to seek help.



So what's her name? :D

Do you know something about her that she likes? or interested to? Like music, dance, sports? etc?

I can help you with this kind of High school moves.
 
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If I see Her again should I say "I didn't know that people don't know how to text" in a chilled tone
Don't do that, it would be extremely cringey regardless of what tone you say it in. It's also passive-aggressive.

Not much you can really do about lost interest, you can just move on.
 

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Men! First, do not do anything what you're planning from above.

That's a super no no.

Kid you are lucky to be on this forum, and you did the right thing to come here to seek help.



So what's her name? :D

Do you know something about her that she likes? or interested to? Like music, dance, sports? etc?

I can help you with this kind of High school moves.
Her name's Ashely, and so far all I know is that she likes reading books and she's into this military program in my school
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You’re overthinking this.

You go to school with her. Just talk to her when you see her at school. Don’t mention her not texting you, what’s the point of that? You have a crush on her, which is a form of pedestalizing. Most girls can tell when a guy likes them. Unless this girl is already interested in you you’re just going to inadvertently turn her off by pestering her with more texts or insinuating when you see her that it bothers you when she doesn’t reply to your text messages.

Remember, most guys text their way out of girls pants.

You’re in high school with her so you know you’re going to be seeing her around, no point texting her incessantly. Strike up a conversation next time you see her, maybe some other members on here can help you with what to say. I’ll just say make sure you’re talking to other girls as well so you don’t approach your crush with a scarcity/needy mentality.
Thanks man. So what should w talk about when i see her again?
 

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Her name's Ashely, and so far all I know is that she likes reading books and she's into this military program in my school
That's what she told you? It's way better if they Wondering what your doing.
 

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That's what she told you? It's way better if they Wondering what your doing.
We barely even speak as she has different classes as me, even our lunch periods are different. That's all I really know about her. And she's always with her pack of orbiters lol
 

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We barely even speak as she has different classes as me, even our lunch periods are different. That's all I really know about her. And she's always with her pack of orbiters lol
What school? Worry about you. If she ain't showing that she Interested worry about someone else.
 

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She knows what's up...now you continue your mission.

 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Her name's Ashely, and so far all I know is that she likes reading books and she's into this military program in my school
Ok great, you want to get her out for a date right? is that what you want?

Now ill ask you, what can you do something entertaining or catches people's attention?

Can you dona magic trick? Play the guitar? music? etc.? Tell me something :D
 

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Ok great, you want to get her out for a date right? is that what you want?

Now ill ask you, what can you do something entertaining or catches people's attention?

Can you dona magic trick? Play the guitar? music? etc.? Tell me something :D
I'm going to try and see what's sup with a date. I can`t believe I lost my mojo, I used to go on dates back then but it's been awhile since I've started picking up game.

If we do go on a date I'm taking her for a walk around the park as a first date to see if she's worth it.

When you take a girl on a date do you say
"What are you doing on (said day) then if she says she's free invite her to what you're going to be doing."
 

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I'm going to try and see what's sup with a date. I can`t believe I lost my mojo, I used to go on dates back then but it's been awhile since I've started picking up game.

If we do go on a date I'm taking her for a walk around the park as a first date to see if she's worth it.

When you take a girl on a date do you say
"What are you doing on (said day) then if she says she's free invite her to what you're going to be doing."
No that is not the proper method.

Don't do anything reckless yet until the DJs here are going to give you clear suggestions.

What I'm suggesting you is to build a strategy or gimick to get her attention and to participate on something so you and ashley could have a normal talk just like your lady seatmates in your class.

You can't walk to her directly and ask for a date without any reason.

You don't tell a woman or a lady the "date" word.

and that is going to be an open ended question too. So if she says no, then your history within just 5 seconds.

So what talent do you have? or something that you do? Just tell me now so I could give an example.

This is going to be a fun yet rewarding experience for you kid, so just take it.
 
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Thanks man. So what should w talk about when i see her again?
With me personally, I don't like to pre-plan topics or dialogue. I like to strike up conversations spontaneously, it feels more natural for me. I'm pretty good at improvising on the spot though.
 

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No that is not the proper method.

Don't do anything reckless yet until the DJs here are going to give you clear suggestions.

What I'm suggesting you is to build a strategy or gimick to get her attention and to participate on something so you and ashley could have a normal talk just like your lady seatmates in your class.

You can't walk to her directly and ask for a date without any reason.

You don't tell a woman or a lady the "date" word.

and that is going to be an open ended question too. So if she says no, then your history within just 5 seconds.

So what talent do you have? or something that you do? Just tell me now so I could give an example.

This is going to be a fun yet rewarding experience for you kid, so just take it.
Aside from lifting weights and wrestling? I have a great sense of humour. I love skateboarding too.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Things are going to die out a 100 times as a DJ, get used to it. Work on abudance mentality by spinning plates which means dating several women at the same time!
 

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I was in the EXACT same situation as you like 2 weeks ago. I texted her and we had very short convo then it just died. I even double texted. I would see her in class and we'd just say hi. So a few days ago I just decided to throw a hail Mary and told her she's pretty and asked her out. Now we're supposed to meet after class on Tuesday. I don't know if she'll actually show up, but I don't care. I always throw a hail Mary when I think it's not going anywhere. It actually works sometimes.
 
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