"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what will happen next after our blowout

dude99

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can't get into all the details way too much so I'll sum it up...im 35 she's 24. we met months ago she lived in another state but was visiting and we had sex she stayed with me for 2 days...after she left we continued to talk...1.5 months later she came back and ended up staying with me for 1 month...she had to leave due to a situation and left some stuff here. she said she would come back...while she was gone she got distant so I lost judgement and did some jealously games to get her attention...well it did but then it escalated and we went back and forth until we had a blowout.

she said she never wants to talk yadda yadda hung up on me...then she calls back saying she's trying to forgive me but then says you do u I do me says she's single then I'm single...she texts more saying I hurt her told her she hurt me then told her I'm calm and over it becasuee we honeslty were being messed up to each other.
basically said when ur calm and forgiven me let me know.

yesterday no communication at all. so I shoot one text this morning" you want to be done forever then let's be done forever..whats the address you want me to send your stuff pointless to have your stuff here since you can't get over it " left it at that.

she knows I want to fix things and she doesn't as of right now. yes I probably messed up more and approached the situation in the wrong way but she did her share..at the end of the day I'm cool and don't care what she did but she on the other hand isn't having it.

I texted her this morning to bait her into saying something back because if i say get over it lets fix it there will be nothing. so I'm showing her I'm willing to walk away too and let her feel that I won't be there ever again and go at her ego by saying she can't get over it so let's be done...pretty much just putting everything on her. yes go no contact i understand but I have to show her whatever before I do go no contact which starts today.

i think if she truly wants It over she will give me an address to mail it too or say just throw it away. if she doesn't reply then that either means she wants to leave the door open or she just doesn't give a f anymore...but I think the percentages are about 50/50 she will say something.
if no reply then that's it no initiation from me anymore.

I know most of you are gonna say it's over move on find other girls...heres the thing I talk to alot of girls some hotter than her. but I'm not ready to stop fighting for her because that's what I want. part of me fighting for her is acting like I'm not gonna fight for her. I've been spoiled my whole life so I'm use to getting what i want. I will explore options and pursue the options until all options are exhausted. I literally talk to 8 girls on a regular basis so i have options but I don't feel like giving up...yes no more texts after today

Text her this " your shït is in a box on my front porch. If it's still here by the time i get home tonght it's going to the dump."

Then delete her number FB snapcrap twitter what ever and move on with your life.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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can't get into all the details way too much so I'll sum it up...im 35 she's 24. we met months ago she lived in another state but was visiting and we had sex she stayed with me for 2 days...after she left we continued to talk...1.5 months later she came back and ended up staying with me for 1 month...she had to leave due to a situation and left some stuff here. she said she would come back...while she was gone she got distant so I lost judgement and did some jealously games to get her attention...well it did but then it escalated and we went back and forth until we had a blowout.

she said she never wants to talk yadda yadda hung up on me...then she calls back saying she's trying to forgive me but then says you do u I do me says she's single then I'm single...she texts more saying I hurt her told her she hurt me then told her I'm calm and over it becasuee we honeslty were being messed up to each other.
basically said when ur calm and forgiven me let me know.

yesterday no communication at all. so I shoot one text this morning" you want to be done forever then let's be done forever..whats the address you want me to send your stuff pointless to have your stuff here since you can't get over it " left it at that.

she knows I want to fix things and she doesn't as of right now. yes I probably messed up more and approached the situation in the wrong way but she did her share..at the end of the day I'm cool and don't care what she did but she on the other hand isn't having it.

I texted her this morning to bait her into saying something back because if i say get over it lets fix it there will be nothing. so I'm showing her I'm willing to walk away too and let her feel that I won't be there ever again and go at her ego by saying she can't get over it so let's be done...pretty much just putting everything on her. yes go no contact i understand but I have to show her whatever before I do go no contact which starts today.

i think if she truly wants It over she will give me an address to mail it too or say just throw it away. if she doesn't reply then that either means she wants to leave the door open or she just doesn't give a f anymore...but I think the percentages are about 50/50 she will say something.
if no reply then that's it no initiation from me anymore.

I know most of you are gonna say it's over move on find other girls...heres the thing I talk to alot of girls some hotter than her. but I'm not ready to stop fighting for her because that's what I want. part of me fighting for her is acting like I'm not gonna fight for her. I've been spoiled my whole life so I'm use to getting what i want. I will explore options and pursue the options until all options are exhausted. I literally talk to 8 girls on a regular basis so i have options but I don't feel like giving up...yes no more texts after today

my advice: get laid or die tryin'
 

marmel75

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you forgot to declare these variables so program knows if these are string or boolean rather than int or char.
Hahaha, its a JSON object, i should have put a header call in there. Lmao!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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