"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When she admits that her mood swings destroy opportunities but still loves you.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Hmmmm
It looks like this one depends on a personal point of view
But thanks for your input, I appreciate it
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Run away as fast as possible
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Her telling you this is basically saying... "I get to act like a complete bish sometimes, and you just have to accept it"
If you are willing to accept it, then proceed. Otherwise, you know hwat to do!
If you can find a speed bike..Thats even better
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Ask her if she's good at multitasking.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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We both tried to get a first official date but failed because of her mood swings.
But we already met, talked, etc. and because of that we developed our feelings.
We are in the courting stage right now, but I am sure 100% she loves me through the signals that she has given me.
I am 95% almost complete to close the deal with this woman.
All I need are dates to establish a personal bond.
We communicate through pm and call but not for long conversations.
Just to ask her out for dinner and drinks
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Aren't all woman like that? joke
Yes, she is telling me who she is without me asking.
I am willing to give her a chance and see if see changes over time.
I am 95% done to seal the deal with her anyway.
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They are all nuts of course
Yeah she is attractive, I am a choosy guy so I seldom go 100% when it comes to women.
She always laughs at my mild jokes
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Ask her WHY she does this. If she has insight into it, and resins coherently, ask her what she is going to do to change that.
People who lack insight can't develop a plan for change. People who can't plan out how to change are never going to change.
If you want a female that is going to push, pull, hot, cold and generally leave you confused, and waster a lot of your time before she discards you, she's the one!
wifehunter
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I would have to agree with this. She is basically telling you upfront she is going to treat you like shït so it won't be a shocker when she does.
Yes. One of my ex’s laughingly smirked about one of her ex’s that complained about being manhandled… I was a different man and that bs wouldn’t happen to me… No
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