"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm too serious?

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I'm currently seeing a girl who has been crushing on me for a while now. Very high-interest. I invited her over for a night a few days ago. I had her laughing all night (a lot of teasing), a lot of kino happened, although no sexy time. Didn't go for the kiss either. We've been messaging since and I asked her if she wanted to come over again tomorrow night, to which she said yes. We start messaging some more and she mentions that I'm serious most of the time, despite what happened that night.
To be fair, I do speak in a neutral tone, yet she finds me very funny. She knows I'm cold too but it doesn't seem to bother her. I'm very confused to what she meant by that. I plan on making a move on her when she stays over, but I can't help but wonder if she'll eventually get bored. I'm not worried about losing her, I'm trying to improve my game. So, what are some things I could do to not look so rigid?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm currently seeing a girl who has been crushing on me for a while now. Very high-interest. I invited her over for a night a few days ago. I had her laughing all night (a lot of teasing), a lot of kino happened, although no sexy time. Didn't go for the kiss either. We've been messaging since and I asked her if she wanted to come over again tomorrow night, to which she said yes. We start messaging some more and she mentions that I'm serious most of the time, despite what happened that night.
To be fair, I do speak in a neutral tone, yet she finds me very funny. She knows I'm cold too but it doesn't seem to bother her. I'm very confused to what she meant by that. I plan on making a move on her when she stays over, but I can't help but wonder if she'll eventually get bored. I'm not worried about losing her, I'm trying to improve my game. So, what are some things I could do to not look so rigid?
Know how to make sure she gets bored?

Invite her over and don't try and escalate. Only can do that so many times before she just figures you are too scared to make a move and moves on.

Stop pondering what might happen at some random future time and go for what you want in the present time.
 

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Know how to make sure she gets bored?

Invite her over and don't try and escalate. Only can do that so many times before she just figures you are too scared to make a move and moves on.

Stop pondering what might happen at some random future time and go for what you want in the present time.
I know that much, I want to know how one can look friendlier while being cold? I can see how my serious tone could scare some people away lol.
 

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I know that much, I want to know how one can look friendlier while being cold? I can see how my serious tone could scare some people away lol.
Being cold how? By being too serious?

Find several interesting topics of conversation and then use those as "go to's" when you need something...

Here are a few I like:

-What's your favorite flavor of ice cream?(google what your favorite ice cream flavor says about you---some psychological profile stuff) and then when they answer let them know what it says about them...women LOVE that sh!t
-What animal would you describe yourself as?
-If you could go anywhere in the world and money was no object where would you go?
etc,
etc,
etc,

Google interesting date topics and find a couple more you like that are interesting/fun and keep them in your back pocket for when you think you are being boring or cold...
 
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