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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
NC for 6 weeks, ready to be over this shyt person
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Yes, I think the great tragedy of modern/ protestant thought is its divorce of the mind from the body. The mind is the body, and vice-versa, and so something like sex has a powerful imprint on us.
stovepipe
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It's deeper than that. Sh!t is on a spiritual level that can, and most likely leave you with random lifelong thoughts of them or even worse, it consumes you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
As long as you find something else to do, this past trauma can and will fade into the rear. It won't be as overpowering as when you dealt with it daily.
Yes the mind,body are important,but the most important aspect of a person is the spirit.I believe if you are not right with God then the whole person will suffer that is mind,body and spirit.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
The best way to forgive.... (I can never forget) ...is to keep your short term memory filled with things other than her...that way, if she CREEPS back in...you'll have things to fill in the void.
It takes 'self-control'...which is a supernatural force...
some people have it, some don't.
It takes 'self-control'...which is a supernatural force...
some people have it, some don't.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
Some of you sound fūcking stupid in this thread.
You wanna know another name for 'lovebombing'? It's called the Honeymoon phase and lasts 6 months to a year.
Just because a woman called you awesome at the beginning of the relationship doesn't mean she had a mental illness.
Like I say everytime the WebMD armchair pyschiatrists come out the woodwork, BPD & Cluster mental disorders are rare. Statistically, it's more likely the relationship didn't work because they were incompatible, not because she was crazy.
Googling BPD symptoms does not make you a licensed pychiatrist.
That's was just my response to all this broscience people are throwing you way OP. You already got great advice on how to move on. Sounds like you are well on your way.
You wanna know another name for 'lovebombing'? It's called the Honeymoon phase and lasts 6 months to a year.
Just because a woman called you awesome at the beginning of the relationship doesn't mean she had a mental illness.
Like I say everytime the WebMD armchair pyschiatrists come out the woodwork, BPD & Cluster mental disorders are rare. Statistically, it's more likely the relationship didn't work because they were incompatible, not because she was crazy.
Googling BPD symptoms does not make you a licensed pychiatrist.
That's was just my response to all this broscience people are throwing you way OP. You already got great advice on how to move on. Sounds like you are well on your way.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
It's easy if you have some GOOD puzzy that likes you and is decent to you, the last thing you will be thinking about is the female that did you dirty.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Some of their BS games on the way out WHERE crazy. It is craziness.
I'm starting to think this is the case, or that something just broke in my brain lol. I'm going on OLD and meeting some interesting women, but I don't give a f.
I can't remember another time in my life when I just didn't want to deal with any women.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I hear ya bro..... I've been dealing with women for 27 years...they really are more trouble than they are worth,if they didn't have a pvssy I wouldn't even acknowledge their existence.
I think I'm just going to bail and go monk mode for awhile man. Seems like I need some time away after this chick.
Focus on self improvement and the next girl will love you more.
Tonight my date went on and on about how my skin was glowing. She could not take her eyes off me. We had comfortable silences, sometimes while holding eye contact, other times while just looking around the restaurant. Next up: 1950's summer dress photo shoot.
We only want to go back to our ex when we got out of shape and we think she'll put up with us. Something about being satisfied makes us chubby.
Tonight my date went on and on about how my skin was glowing. She could not take her eyes off me. We had comfortable silences, sometimes while holding eye contact, other times while just looking around the restaurant. Next up: 1950's summer dress photo shoot.
We only want to go back to our ex when we got out of shape and we think she'll put up with us. Something about being satisfied makes us chubby.