"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No contact and the NPD strikes in a rage

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**** that sue her for giving you a std.
It's against the law to not disclose that information.
I actually thought about it, but she moved 1000 miles away. Not much I can do now. Also, its so hard to prove in court. She manipulated me at first when I pointed out the warts saying it was just calicum deposits and nothing to worry about, then proceeded to give me a BJ. Four months after she moved I texted her to tell her she gave it to me, but she played oppsum, saying "oh no, I gave you a BJ". I was still blind and stupid at that time to read thru her BS.

Now I can see almost every lie she told. She only sucked me off cause she knew she couldn't get that strain again, and makes her BS story even that much more believable. Also, I deleted all the texts which I could have used as evidence. She was good at lying, really good. Now Dr's think my HPV is actually Herpes. All the money I spent on Dr's visits, freezing the warts 6 times and still come back. Just got prescribed a cream that costs $600. Im at the point where dying seems more refreshing.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I actually thought about it, but she moved 1000 miles away. Not much I can do now. Also, its so hard to prove in court. She manipulated me at first when I pointed out the warts saying it was just calicum deposits and nothing to worry about, then proceeded to give me a BJ. Four months after she moved I texted her to tell her she gave it to me, but she played oppsum, saying "oh no, I gave you a BJ". I was still blind and stupid at that time to read thru her BS.

Now I can see almost every lie she told. She only sucked me off cause she knew she couldn't get that strain again, and makes her BS story even that much more believable. Also, I deleted all the texts which I could have used as evidence. She was good at lying, really good. Now Dr's think my HPV is actually Herpes. All the money I spent on Dr's visits, freezing the warts 6 times and still come back. Just got prescribed a cream that costs $600. Im at the point where dying seems more refreshing.
Shiit.
No dont give up.
Get that shiit healed and move on. F her
 

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I do not know. I used antidumps machine and ended up with a Cluster B. If they are good at hidding it like covert narcs are- nothing won't help far.
That is the problem they are able to hide it for long enough to where you are emotionally bonded to them. I think the goal is to remain unattached even a year into a relationship where you can you stop and leave with no anxiety or hurt for yourself. If you have a heart this is tough but in this day and age It is also necessary.
 

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That is the problem they are able to hide it for long enough to where you are emotionally bonded to them. I think the goal is to remain unattached even a year into a relationship where you can you stop and leave with no anxiety or hurt for yourself. If you have a heart this is tough but in this day and age It is also necessary.
They can sense when you're unattached. When they do, thats when the cheating starts.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I guess we need to act as if we aren't almost like playing games. Sadly
They have super human like mental abilities to sense ones emotions before their victim does, or can read you like a book. The only way to win is to not play their game. Always, I mean always wear protection as they're notorious for spreading STD's and not giving a single fuk.
 

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The only way to win is to not play their game.
You only win by runing or avoiding them completely - always. But runing away or avoiding them is only possible AFTER you have found out what she really is - but then most of the Time you are already in too deep. Ergo: you can only lose.
 

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You only win by runing or avoiding them completely - always. But runing away or avoiding them is only possible AFTER you have found out what she really is - but then most of the Time you are already in too deep. Ergo: you can only lose.
And lose you do there is no way around it. Unless you are a heartless sociopath they will fucxck up and damage u for no other reason than that is what they do. They are a wrecking ball of negativity and torture.

I've literally gone from a fun composed positive life loving guy to being in fight mode almost constantly with the sickening sensation of betrayal in my gut.

These npds are the opposite of love and life.
 

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These fukn narcs are crazy and cruel. They will accuse u of cheating or sneaking 3x a week. I would respond and clarify. Being kind never to leave someone feeling uneasy.
But when something seems off and YOU mention it they go FULL psycho get mad at you and ignore u for days. Punish you for asking a question once they askwd weekly for years. They are horrible people. They punish you with extreme abuse.

****kk these ****ty god awful people.

They offer nothing and just take yet tell you that you offer them nothing. They are evil with abuse.

Ive gone from compassionate to confused to sad to furious with disgust.

If this chick was a dude i would knock her ****ing head off her shoulders.

And she got fat at the end too.

Serves her right
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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