No contact and the NPD strikes in a rage

[MrAddiction]

Guys.
NPD BPD ... Whatever.
It does not really matter. It only will confuse one who is in a situation like exhausted.
Important to know is: this way or that way his ex is unhealthy and one of the Cluster B(itches) - who cares what exact disgnose she has or should have. She displayed inacceptable behaviour like all Cluster B(itches) do. After all the endresult is the same: going no contact - forever!
Realising that was quiet an epipahny for me.

A bytch is a bytch is a bytch ...and will never change.

 

[MrAddiction]

Cluster B often is the result of horrific abuse so compassion can be felt, but bytch behaviour is bytch behaviour and running fast is a wise strategy.

Sorry but no compassion for an ex that fcuked one over - for whatever reason.

 

[exhausted]

Other characteristic traits of such narcissists** (and this also applies to the female variety) include:

• Control freaks
• Irritability
• Short fuses
• Low frustration tolerance
• Argumentative
• Need to have the last word
• Unable to lose
• Won’t take “No” for an answer
• Quick to anger if you don’t accommodate them
• Quick to being aggressively defensive if you call them on any deficiency, fault or responsibility
• Can’t apologize or if do, can’t do it sincerely
• Rarely say, “Thank you” or “Congratulations”
• Don’t feel or demonstrate remorse
• Feel entitled to enthusiastic and appreciative approval, adoration, agreement and obedience
• Gloat in victory, sullen in defeat
• Quick to rage if you humiliate them

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/just-listen/201202/rage-coming-soon-narcissist-near-you

Wow she dkes every thing on this list excelt says thanks from time to time. Tho never displays appreciation with actions. All words

 

[MrAddiction]

Wow she dkes every thing on this list excelt says thanks from time to time. Tho never displays appreciation with actions. All words

Mine once said to me that she would not have to say thank you because I were her boyfriend!

How much can you take one for granted?

 

[Billtx49]

Sorry but no compassion for an ex that fcuked one over - for whatever reason.

Understand your point, but the day you feel empathy and compassion for a seriously ill woman and the unnormal life she will have to live, is the day you know you are safely on the other side and completely past the unfortunate encounter you had with her.

 

[MrAddiction]

Understand your point, but the day you feel empathy and compassion for these seriously ill women and the unnormal life they will have to live, is the day you know you are safely on the other side and completely past the encounter you had with her.

Knowing you have been there I will have that in the back of my mind. But at the moment - it is a year the relationship ended - I'm still far from that.
It is easy for her to find another willing victim all the time I think. Like she easily found a replacement for me. So I do not see her suffer any consequences nor leading a miserable life.

 

[Billtx49]

But at the moment - it is a year the relationship ended - I'm still far from that.

Yes, It takes a longer than normal time to heal from one of these women. Probably because of the emotional and psychological damage they do to you.

 

[MrAddiction]

Can I also add that I have read anti-dump and it is the holy grail for avoiding cluster B. Anti-dump is a mindset. It's not PUA, it's no BS. Pook is great reading but anti-dump is the greatest work of male literature.

I do not know. I used antidumps machine and ended up with a Cluster B. If they are good at hidding it like covert narcs are- nothing won't help far.

 

[exhausted]

Understand your point, but the day you feel empathy and compassion for a seriously ill woman and the unnormal life she will have to live, is the day you know you are safely on the other side and completely past the unfortunate encounter you had with her.

Yep i feel sorry for her.
After her calling me out of no where, trying fight with me for 2 days she calls and leaves a message asking to come over. Then even asked me to do something with her friday.
Like she doensnt understand her terrible behavior ruins things.
I feel bad for her, told her without this bs we would be married already and discussing things like what boat should we buying instead of this bs over the years....

 

[dude99]

I've been no contact with my ex npd, when it ended i made sure to be calm and noncompliant to argue or respond to her last rage. I would not give her the satisfaction of tricking me into a fight.

Yesterday I receive 2 phone calls from her as i missed them both with a message asking for her clothes she has left at my home. I do have her clothes so i called her back to get them to her, i dont need her stopping by or calling the police as she is crazy and goes into rages when she cant have what she wants, she says that she is in disbelief that i have not reached out to her, i told her things ended with her going crazy on me in a rage and that day she was aware my mom, who had cancer last year, and had to go in to have masses checked that same day, didn't even ask what was found, or reach out to me since to check, so why is she the one in disbelief that i didnt contact someone who has been so very terrible and abusive to me , let alone unappreciative and giving no compassion? [We were tog 3 years my mom was so very nice to her and her kid she could have checked on my mom or even caled her, cancer sucks]
Long story short she tried talking about things a bit, i did not bite, got off the phone around 9 then attempted calling me back twice at 1130 pm later in the night which i didnt answer because i was in bed for work.
Again she called this am at 1030 and i didnt answer as i was working and she left a message in a yelling rage that i must be fcjing a girl.
I called back and told her i was in bed last night and am working today and does she want me to mail her her clothes as i forgot to ask how to get them to her last night rushing off the phone..which resulted in her raging and going crazy on me because i didnt answer my phone last night, even tho i was in bed. And we dont even speak anymore so wtf.

My response to her was, im dealing a lot with my mom and family and dont need anymore, thanks for calling, nice talking to u, how do u want ur clothes, she said throw them away. Raged and raged and raged on me i did give it to her a bit about being a crazy contolling psycho that says one thing and does the opposite like a disappointment, but like matter of fact ,as i got off the phone nicely as she continued to rage and try to fight i refused.

No contact and all the cvnt wanted was to call and start a fight and have drama.

I dont get it.

Why not just leave it alone?

Throw her clothes away now and never have anything to do with her again. It isn't worth it.

I had an ex behave the same way. She would call 5 to 10 times a day and fill my answering machine with raging messages

Do not play. Do not engage. Do not feed the beast.

 

[dude99]

I'm of the opinion that people who rage NEED to rage because it is a stress reliever, adrenaline high, or possibly both for them.

They also believe that out of fear you will just relent and give them what they want. It is the same mentality of the child who throws temper tantrums.

 

[exhausted]

They also believe that out of fear you will just relent and give them what they want. It is the same mentality of the child who throws temper tantrums.

They have no ability to communicate or deal with anything not going their way

 

[Billtx49]

They have no ability to communicate or deal with anything not going their way

Yes. At an intimate personal level there is nothing below their every day social communication skills. They seem like an empty shell filled with a certain level of unconscience hatred of men inside due to past events in their life.

 

[exhausted]

And lack compassion, APPRECIATION and the ability to love

 

[Billtx49]

And lack compassion, APPRECIATION and the ability to love

Yes, their love feature is empty also.
There is Nothing below the surface with these women. It's the ultimate con job and their curent man is the victim of the scam.
Their emotions come mostly from external triggering events, it's hardly ever anything real coming from within them.

 

[exhausted]

Yes, their love feature is empty also.
There is Nothing below the surface with these women. It's the ultimate con job and their curent man is the victim of the scam.
Their emotions come mostly from external triggering events, it's hardly ever anything real coming from within them.

Bingo. They offer nothing yet no matter what u give them they complain it is never enough.
It's unreal

 

[Billtx49]

Bingo. They offer nothing yet no matter what u give them they complain it is never enough.
It's unreal

Yes, you encounter one of these women and you enter into a different reality. It all seems real at the time, but it's all fake.

 

[exhausted]

Yes, you encounter one of these women and you enter into a different reality. It all seems real at the time, but it's all fake.

Yep all they see is that you are here for them and they give nothing. Like a child needing a caretaker which turns into a punching bag when they need to take everything out on us. They must control everything and if they don't they blame us for being controlling.

 

[stovepipe]

I hate myself for falling for her con. Feel so violated, weak and betrayed. To top it all off, she gave me an STI and manipulated me into thinking it wasn't. How in her mind I probably look like the most pathetic fool for sticking around for all that abuse time and time again.

Its like I had blinders on my eyes the whole time. I knew something up from day one, but she was a friend of a friend so I just thought she was just an emotional sensitive person. Only when she left did the fog clear and I was able to look back at the entire two years for what it really was......A CON

 

[exhausted]

I hate myself for falling for her con. Feel so violated, weak and betrayed. To top it all off, she gave me an STI and manipulated me into thinking it wasn't. How in her mind I probably look like the most pathetic fool for sticking around for all that abuse time and time again.

Its like I had blinders on my eyes the whole time. I knew something up from day one, but she was a friend of a friend so I just thought she was just an emotional sensitive person. Only when she left did the fog clear and I was able to look back at the entire two years for what it really was......A CON

**** that sue her for giving you a std.
It's against the law to not disclose that information.