"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When you're discussing with a woman

lizardking82

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When you're discussing with a woman, you're not discussing with her, but rather with the thoughts her most influental male figure put into her.

This just came to mind. What do you guys think?

And please, let's avoid the "not all women are like that". I mean this in general, of course there might exceptions, as with everything.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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When you're discussing with a woman, you're not discussing with her, but rather with the thoughts her most influential male figure put into her..
I'd say "emotions" instead of thoughts. They are all buttons that can be pushed, whether you do so intentionally or not.
 

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When you're discussing with a woman, you're not discussing with her, but rather with the thoughts her most influental male figure put into her.

This just came to mind. What do you guys think?

And please, let's avoid the "not all women are like that". I mean this in general, of course there might exceptions, as with everything.
They aren't robots. They are capable of having their own thoughts and opinions.
 

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What you getting at is saying that women aren't imaginative enough and are incapable of original idea development. Looking at this objectively, these traits do show themselves much stronger in men than in women. I also find that women tend to align their views or thoughts with the person they hold in high esteem (admire). And I honestly don't believe it always has to be a male, but just the majority happen to be men. We are talking, the father figures, husbands, older brother, teacher/mentor, even the favorite writer or a religious entity. That is basically the basis of patriarchy. The interesting thing I observed recently is that no matter how old the woman is, her mind can easily be influenced/corrupted from outside by smarter or more confident folks. It's almost as in the case with kids being influenced by adults. And it's much harder with men.
 
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I agree with the fact that the average woman is uncapable of logical thinking but disagree with a strong male model influencing her.

Most of the times its the herd mentality that does it, put her in nazi germany and she will hate minorities, put her in 2017s pc germany and she will hold a "refugee welcome" wallpaper.

Doesnt matter that in 1947 she had no reason to fear minorities while in 2017 they run trains on white women anytime it gets dark outside.

After all how many women nobel prize do we have except poetry and other useless to others stuff?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well, they get most of their thoughts from someone. That's why you should never hate her ex. There are probably things about him you already observed in her and liked.

I know my girl so well I've twice busted her for suddenly using new words, like totally. I'll say "Who taught you that word? Are you hanging out with a woman who is in her early 40's by chance?" and she'll say "Yes, how did you know??"
 
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