"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dating unhappy women

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What are your thoughts on dating an unhappy woman? Let's say a woman with alot of baggage who is yearning for something good to happen to her (a.k.a. a guy to come into her life and save her. I guess "captain save a ho" is a fitting term here.) In my opinion, these type of people go through a phase, maybe for several months, where they believe this person is making them so happy and filling them up/"completing" them. But after this phase, they realize they're ultimately still not happy and pull away...and at some point, sabotage the relationship. Thoughts?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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cityboy989 said:
What are your thoughts on dating an unhappy woman? Let's say a woman with alot of baggage who is yearning for something good to happen to her (a.k.a. a guy to come into her life and save her. I guess "captain save a ho" is a fitting term here.) In my opinion, these type of people go through a phase, maybe for several months, where they believe this person is making them so happy and filling them up/"completing" them. But after this phase, they realize they're ultimately still not happy and pull away...and at some point, sabotage the relationship. Thoughts?
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Ivar, aka Mikeman, aka pelvischestly, is that you?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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cityboy989 said:
What are your thoughts on dating an unhappy woman? Let's say a woman with alot of baggage who is yearning for something good to happen to her (a.k.a. a guy to come into her life and save her. I guess "captain save a ho" is a fitting term here.) In my opinion, these type of people go through a phase, maybe for several months, where they believe this person is making them so happy and filling them up/"completing" them. But after this phase, they realize they're ultimately still not happy and pull away...and at some point, sabotage the relationship. Thoughts?
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Just say no.
 
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Amante Silvestre said:
There's no worse position to be in than being the source and center of someone else's happiness. Women like this will spiral into a state of depression simply because you didn't respond to their text message within 10 minutes. F*ck that.
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How's that bad? You basically control her at that point. And as long as you don't care about her, then she will always be coming back to you.
 
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Dating? No. Hell no.

Spinning? Sure, at your own risk.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Unhappy women don't have to be clingy women who get mad if you don't respond in a few minutes. I'm speaking more on women who use guys short-term (several months to a year) to fill a void.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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randalljohnson said:
No, unhappy in life. Meaning unhappy when they're single also.
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What bigneil is pointing out is they will ALSO be unhappy with you. And when they are high maintenence like that you being with them gives them someone to blame.

Your fault or not. They will blame you.
 
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cityboy989 said:
What are your thoughts on dating an unhappy woman? Let's say a woman with alot of baggage who is yearning for something good to happen to her (a.k.a. a guy to come into her life and save her. I guess "captain save a ho" is a fitting term here.) In my opinion, these type of people go through a phase, maybe for several months, where they believe this person is making them so happy and filling them up/"completing" them. But after this phase, they realize they're ultimately still not happy and pull away...and at some point, sabotage the relationship. Thoughts?
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Avoid like the plague.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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