i asked a girl out last week for drinks, she was busy all week but suggested tonight. I agreed, but haven't spoke to her since, and she hasn't initiated any contact or said that it's still on. I get the vibe that if she was really interested in going out she would have at least text me to see if we are still on, I dunno whether I should ask her if we are still on.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
Just ask her out. Don't be afraid of rejection.
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Usually women will text to confirm. If she doesn't by an hour before the date, you will likely get the "I forgot". You can always send a text assuming she is going like... "Grab a seat at the bar for me"
Did you guys agree on a time and date?
Did you guys agree on a time and date?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
SuckItUp
Senior Don Juan
Two schools of thought here.
One is to just show up and have a great time if she shows or doesn't show.
The other is to ping 24 hours before the date and bust on her a bit.
Obviously, you don't want to ask her if she's going to show up.
You say something like ready to get your butt kicked in pool, bowling, darts (applies to an activity assumed with date) or on the same day looking forward to tonight.
The question on whether to text or not depends on a few things.
In this case I would because it's been a week since you last spoke and she may think you are flaking.
Pinging her will give you a good idea if she's going to show up. She'll either give you some bs as to why she can't meet up or she'll confirm to you that she'll be there.
Of course her confirming means nothing unless she shows up, but it's more likely.