i asked a girl out last week for drinks, she was busy all week but suggested tonight. I agreed, but haven't spoke to her since, and she hasn't initiated any contact or said that it's still on. I get the vibe that if she was really interested in going out she would have at least text me to see if we are still on, I dunno whether I should ask her if we are still on.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
Just ask her out. Don't be afraid of rejection.
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Usually women will text to confirm. If she doesn't by an hour before the date, you will likely get the "I forgot". You can always send a text assuming she is going like... "Grab a seat at the bar for me"
Did you guys agree on a time and date?
Did you guys agree on a time and date?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SuckItUp
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Two schools of thought here.
One is to just show up and have a great time if she shows or doesn't show.
The other is to ping 24 hours before the date and bust on her a bit.
Obviously, you don't want to ask her if she's going to show up.
You say something like ready to get your butt kicked in pool, bowling, darts (applies to an activity assumed with date) or on the same day looking forward to tonight.
The question on whether to text or not depends on a few things.
In this case I would because it's been a week since you last spoke and she may think you are flaking.
Pinging her will give you a good idea if she's going to show up. She'll either give you some bs as to why she can't meet up or she'll confirm to you that she'll be there.
Of course her confirming means nothing unless she shows up, but it's more likely.