"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.

I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.

other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.

Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.

Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.

Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:

"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"

DELETE

No thanks.

Tldr: they ALWAYS come back
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Infern0 said:
Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.

I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.

other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.

Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.

Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.

Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:

"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"

DELETE

No thanks.

Tldr: they ALWAYS come back
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Ahh.... the sweet satisfaction of victory... :D
 
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Roober said:
Ahh.... the sweet satisfaction of victory... :D
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Yeah i was thinking that earlier. warred with this girl for 3 years and i finally "won"

But, meh whatever, i'm clued up enough to know now that life has already beaten her, i'm beyond hate or anything at this stage, i pity her. But i don't want any part of her either.
 
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Infern0 said:
Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.

I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.

other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.

Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.

Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.

Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:

"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"

DELETE

No thanks.

Tldr: they ALWAYS come back
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Handled perfectly.

Nope.

Delete.

Gone.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dude99 said:
Handled perfectly.

Nope.

Delete.

Gone.
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You could've made her a permenant pump and dump where the framed conversation is focused around the next meeting for sex and nothing outside of this.
 
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Im glad you handled it this way. I thought you were going to tell us you lined up a meeting with her and were looking to smash. The feeling is very tempting, going back to an old ex, better, confident you will hold the power.

However its often not worth it. You made a good decision. And I know the feeling is amazing.
 
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bradd80 said:
You should have read it so you can tell us what she said and we can all have a good laugh :rofl::lol:

After a year out I would never go back to an ex.. at that point even the thought of sexing her disgusts me.
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Got it. Well definitely don't "degrade" yourself behind some sex...
 
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You could've made her a permenant pump and dump where the framed conversation is focused around the next meeting for sex and nothing outside of this.
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He could have tried for the pump and dump but being a bpd you could never get rid of her after the dump.

He would be making a new thread called " how do i get rid of bpd ex after the pump and dump?"
 
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They are so many hot, rotten girls out there! Why waste time with only one?

Garbage!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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dude99 said:
He could have tried for the pump and dump but being a bpd you could never get rid of her after the dump.

He would be making a new thread called " how do i get rid of bpd ex after the pump and dump?"
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Or "is there any way i can make it work with bpd ex"

never go back to the drink
 
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Infern0 said:
Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.

I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.

other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.

Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.

Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.

Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:

"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"

DELETE

No thanks.

Tldr: they ALWAYS come back
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This is the same chick who had the guy kill himself over her, correct?
 
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Yup thats the one
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I give you a-lot of credit for being able to just delete it. I always have this urge in me to get even with people like this by saying something mean or cruel to them, but I guess with women like this that does no good. Just gives em a feeling of being important to you still.
 
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btownbuck2012 said:
I give you a-lot of credit for being able to just delete it. I always have this urge in me to get even with people like this by saying something mean or cruel to them, but I guess with women like this that does no good. Just gives em a feeling of being important to you still.
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There's a lot of things i could have done.

Thrown some abuse

Pumped and dumped

Probably could have hooked up with her best friend

But, what would that make me?

just as bad as her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well done Infern0. I remember your old thread and I can relate it´s really a matter of life and death.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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