When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yes gaining muscle would help. The point is work with what you have. Even if you fail you will gain knowledge that will be beneficial to you. Keep working on bulking up while going out on as many dates as you can. Stop thinking and just do it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I feel you on that bro. For example I recently approached a girl at my college job(not a serious job ppl hook up there) I introduced myself,handshake,smile. Chatted her up maybe 3 times a couple minutes each over a few day period, then asked for her number and she gave me it but then it went nowhere after that. Some ppl told me I waited too long to ask for her number, idk if I didn't flirt enough or wasn't funny enough or she just wasn't attracted to my skinny as fuark body and thought she'd break me in the sheets lol.