"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm 20, If I bulk up and gain lean muscle from 5'7" 120lbs to around 160lbs lean, would more girls be interested and wanna possibly hookup? Also how can I improve my escalation and flirting with women? I feel like most of the convos are platonic and not very flirty.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm 20, If I bulk up and gain lean muscle from 5'7" 120lbs to around 160lbs lean, would more girls be interested and wanna possibly hookup? Also how can I improve my escalation and flirting with women? I feel like most of the convos are platonic and not very flirty.
Short answer:no

Dress nice, try to stay lean and dont be boring. Its all about having fun. Rule #1: never do anything for women, do it for your self.

Read the DJ bible.
 

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Actually short answer is yes. Around 160, lean and nice, is sexy. Your conversations will better up once you get your confidence up, this happens through 1) perfect looks, 2) exercises & dj bible, and 3) comes naturally with age. Don't be quick finding a girl, focus on improving yourself.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You don't need 160, 155 lean you will look 185. 150 you will start picking up women.
Alright, How do you think it would change things with women? Would it make game easier? Would they approach me?
 

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Actually short answer is yes. Around 160, lean and nice, is sexy. Your conversations will better up once you get your confidence up, this happens through 1) perfect looks, 2) exercises & dj bible, and 3) comes naturally with age. Don't be quick finding a girl, focus on improving yourself.
Thanks for the tips! How do you think it would affect things? Would I get approached? I've heard women would be more receptive and what I say would be taken differently when I'm bigger and more attractive, is that true? Would they try to escalate quicker since they'd be physically turned on? Would you say it makes game easier?
 

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It will be easier and you will get the occasional approach
Ok, I'm about to start getting on a workout and diet grind, people have told me it would take a year or two to really develop an aesthetic,female head turning physique.
 

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I'm 5'7 and 8-9% BF. 145 is about when you'll start noticing women checking you out. 150-160 is ideal. Getting over 160 is difficult without losing leanness or taking roids.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm 5'7 and 8-9% BF. 145 is about when you'll start noticing women checking you out. 150-160 is ideal. Getting over 160 is difficult without losing leanness or taking roids.
Yeah that's what I'm going for around 150ish and lean like your bf%. Would you say it makes a difference, like you said you get glances and checked out.
 

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Yeah that's what I'm going for around 150ish and lean like your bf%. Would you say it makes a difference, like you said you get glances and checked out.
Absolutely. Any man under 5'10 needs to develop an eye-catching physique to offset lack of height. Chicks definitely will notice, touch, and comment.

The fastest way to bulk is to build your legs and back. Squats, Rows, and Deadlifts. Do twice as many back exercises as chest. Squat 2-3 times per week.
 

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Absolutely. Any man under 5'10 needs to develop an eye-catching physique to offset lack of height. Chicks definitely will notice, touch, and comment.

The fastest way to bulk is to build your legs and back. Squats, Rows, and Deadlifts. Do twice as many back exercises as chest. Squat 2-3 times per week.
The trainer at the gym told me to do squats,bench,rows,triceps pushdowns,curls and an ab machine. I was thinking 3000cals for a lean bulk, chicken,salmon,rice, foods like that, do you think that's good for a bulk? I've been told it would take a year or two to get an attractive body.
 

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Trainers at the gym make things too complicated and have an interest in selling you more personal training sessions. The best thing for a lifting novice to add bulk is to google Stronglifts 5X5 or Starting Strength by Mark Rippletoe. Focus on basic, compound lifts. Abs, curls, are tricip pushdowns are completely unnecessary (I've done zero in 5 years).
 

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Trainers at the gym make things too complicated and have an interest in selling you more personal training sessions. The best thing for a lifting novice to add bulk is to google Stronglifts 5X5 or Starting Strength by Mark Rippletoe. Focus on basic, compound lifts. Abs, curls, are tricip pushdowns are completely unnecessary (I've done zero in 5 years).
How would you say it changes things for you with the women in terms of game and getting with them? Do they try to escalate with you or is it easier for you to get things going with them? As I've said I'm trying to improve game but I'd think the way things would be for me now would be different when I'm aesthetic and attractive to them.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Trainers at the gym make things too complicated and have an interest in selling you more personal training sessions. The best thing for a lifting novice to add bulk is to google Stronglifts 5X5 or Starting Strength by Mark Rippletoe. Focus on basic, compound lifts. Abs, curls, are tricip pushdowns are completely unnecessary (I've done zero in 5 years).
Just read up on Starting Strength. May have to give that a try, except I'm not sure there's room for power cleans in my gym.

Does it really develop your biceps/chests very well though? All I see is that it's big into squats, deadlifts, overhead press, bench press, and power cleans. It seems like you'd have to incorporate some pullups/curls or incline press at some point.
 

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It will be easier and you will get the occasional approach
It's been pretty frustrating when I see other guys attracting women and having times with girls lol. Like I mentioned I've been trying to improve "game" but I'm sure the way "game" and attempting to talk to them would be a lot different when I'm bigger and more attractive then how I am now.
 

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Thanks for the tips! How do you think it would affect things? Would I get approached? I've heard women would be more receptive and what I say would be taken differently when I'm bigger and more attractive, is that true? Would they try to escalate quicker since they'd be physically turned on? Would you say it makes game easier?
You are thinking to much. Work on yourself. Bulk up. Go on as many dates as possible to hone your game. Kino is your friend. Kino done in the right way let's a woman know that you want to f uck her. It states that you are a sexual being and not a friend. Stop analyzing and start doing.
 

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You are thinking to much. Work on yourself. Bulk up. Go on as many dates as possible to hone your game. Kino is your friend. Kino done in the right way let's a woman know that you want to f uck her. It states that you are a sexual being and not a friend. Stop analyzing and start doing.
I feel what you're saying about the kino,escalation and letting them know you want them in bed. I've had struggles attracting them and getting to possible dates lol. That's why I was curious if you'd think gaining muscle and having a muscle,lean physique would help and make a difference with it.
 

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How do you improve with chicks?

Log off So Suave and never return.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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