Should I reach out about her plans tonight (NYE)?

[TheGambino]

She was high interested, talked about relationship. Made out several times, great vibe 2 dates.

Last saturday I acted needy and I was drunk, she told me that I probably expect more but she doesn't want that when I asked her to come over to my place.

I ended it with saying, I don't want more, want to get to know you, that's it. ''were done''.

I would like her to tell me her plans so I could see her and have fun.

Weak? Needy? Will I lose her even more? She's still active on snap trying to figure out if Im going to reaach out probably. I don't think my chances are 0, she must have some kind of interest still but she knows I was a beta years ago with her sister.

Would appreciate real advice.

 

[Dan Bautista]

New Year('s Eve) is a special event. If she still has considerable interest levels, she will reach out to you. Stay on NC until she reaches back out to you.

 

[bigneil]

Wait, isn't this the girl who you invited over, then said "we're done" when she didn't want to eat Ramen Noodles in your dorm?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/needy-behavior-she-says-shes-doesnt-want-nothing-atm.238093/

Given that it's New Year's Eve, I'm not asking the girl who I saw last night out, so I would say you shouldn't ask out the girl who dumped you last week out.

 

[TheGambino]

Wait, isn't this the girl who you invited over, then said "we're done" when she didn't want to eat Ramen Noodles in your dorm?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/needy-behavior-she-says-shes-doesnt-want-nothing-atm.238093/

Given that it's New Year's Eve, I'm not asking the girl who I saw last night out, so I would say you shouldn't ask out the girl who dumped you last week out.

I told her "were done" when she claimed I wanted more and she didn't.

 

[bigneil]

So you are asking if you should undo the "were done"?

Show a backbone.

 

[TheGambino]

So you are asking if you should undo the "were done"?

Show a backbone.

Yes sir. Thanks for the wake up call.

I was thinking about the make out sessions, holding hands and smelling her parfume and those big beautiful eyes. And ofcourse her nails porring my arms. Beta something...

 

[RangerMIke]

You said you are done... so you are DONE. If you go back on your word you might as well cut off your nuts and hand them to her in a box with a pretty red ribbon.

Also... BTW... never ask for a relationship, that is a the woman's job. Your job as a man is to fvck her and let her figure out what it all means.

 

[TheGambino]

What if I see her tonight randomly?

 

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

She was high interested, talked about relationship. Made out several times, great vibe 2 dates.

Last saturday I acted needy and I was drunk, she told me that I probably expect more but she doesn't want that when I asked her to come over to my place.

I ended it with saying, I don't want more, want to get to know you, that's it. ''were done''.

Testosterone prompts behavior which is centered, driven, firm, in control. Estrogen prompts behavior which is whimsical, wishy-washy, mutable. As a man, act in accordance with your primary hormone, testosterone.

Overtly emotional ... well, that's a woman's arena. Next time you feel a need to say "We're done," say nothing and walk away.

 

[Denny19]

The only thing you should do is absolutely nothing. You probably set yourself back with the "we're done" comment. But @RangerMIke makes a good point.....if you go back, you may as well hand her your balls on a platter because she will dictate the relationship, friendship, whatever it is you guys end up being, she will be in control

as a man, you have to mean what you say....and i get what your saying about thinking of the make out sessions and the good times, we all get hung up on 1 girl or another in our lifetime....but my advice to you is to do nothing.

never let a woman think they are superior to you. That doesn't mean that you disrespect them or treat them like $hit...i don't condone that behavior. But this comes down to self respect..always respect yourself first, otherwise a woman never will

 

[TheGambino]

I did absolutley not talk about relationship. She came with the horoscope talk about me in a relationship, I didn't even make comments about it, she brung it up.

 

[bigneil]

Yes sir. Thanks for the wake up call.

I was thinking about the make out sessions, holding hands and smelling her parfume and those big beautiful eyes. And ofcourse her nails porring my arms. Beta something...

My girl swallowed last night at 11:15pm.

By 12:15am when I dropped her off I had to wonder if I would ever see her again. God knows I won't be the first to reach out. Nothing girls do means a thing anymore. You have to try to re-seduce them from scratch every time.

 

[RangerMIke]

I did absolutley not talk about relationship. She came with the horoscope talk about me in a relationship, I didn't even make comments about it, she brung it up.

This is the kind of thing women do when they want you to themselves. The other thing I get all the time is questions about other women I might be seeing. The way I handle it is joke around... I never get serious. They tap dance around the question. If they actually get blunt they'll say something like "What are we doing?" or "Where is this going?" or maybe she'll just come out and say she wants to be exclusive. When they do this just play dumb, ask them "What do you mean?" Then joke around about not wanting to cause global warming by burning your little black book, or causing wide-spread female depression.

If you want to be exclusive with one chick, well... I just don't get it... but if you want a chance of getting it to work, she has to believe that she drug you kicking and screaming into it. She has to believe that you will leave as soon as you are not getting what you want. You do this by laying out what the 'relationship' is going to look like... set the conditions from acceptability.

 

[dustmuffin]

You kicked her to the curb. That is where she should stay. NYE is a special date night. You should only go out with a GF or a girl you have been scr ewing a lot. You threw her out. Lock the door and don't let her back in.

 

[ubercat]

Personally if I don't have to entertain a girlfriend I get together with a good mate and do the year retrospective over a decent bottle of single malt. I wouldn't give a plate the time of day on NYE.

 

[TheGambino]

Well I bumped intoo her. She was excited to see me had a drink and she left with a friend. After an hour she texts me where I am. She comes to the club but she was with the bf of her sister and probably doesnt want him to know that we have dated or that's something going on. She acts aloof, busy with her phone and doesn't give me any attention when he was around. Tried to have a convo but she danced with him then I dropped her and left of and danced with another chick. Had a sexual dance and making out session with her and she saw everything she was looking at our direction for about 10 mins then she left the club without saying nothing AGAIN.

I texted her 2 hours later.

Me: You home?

no reaction yet

 

[dustmuffin]

Well I bumped intoo her. She was excited to see me had a drink and she left with a friend. After an hour she texts me where I am. She comes to the club but she was with the bf of her sister and probably doesnt want him to know that we have dated or that's something going on. She acts aloof, busy with her phone and doesn't give me any attention when he was around. Tried to have a convo but she danced with him then I dropped her and left of and danced with another chick. Had a sexual dance and making out session with her and she saw everything she was looking at our direction for about 10 mins then she left the club without saying nothing AGAIN.

I texted her 2 hours later.

Me: You home?

no reaction yet

Why did you text her? You should have let her come to you. Don't you remember you dumped her. Why are you chasing?

 

[bigneil]

Why did you text her? You should have let her come to you. Don't you remember you dumped her. Why are you chasing?

"You home?"

What a creepy, stalkerish question to ask a girl who has been avoiding you.

If I asked my girl that I guarantee she would get a restraining order against me.

This reads like the What Not To Do Guide.

 

[TheGambino]

So what about the dancing with another girl part in front of her when she acts aloof and a bit of arrogant? All up in her phone.

 

[marmel75]

So what about the dancing with another girl part in front of her when she acts aloof and a bit of arrogant? All up in her phone.

Again...you don't get it.

Stop spending your time trying to make an uninterested woman interested and start spending it finding women who are interested. You'll get laid far more often trust me.