ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
True dat.Myself. If not, what am I waiting for?
What was his biggest lesson to you? And what made him so tough in your eyes?Sounds soppy, but I really respect my father.
A serious alpha male, that got married and had kids. Worked his bollocks off to provide for us, then got divorced because my mother decided he was "too possessive".
Seriously sorts me out sometimes when I am being daft. A legit alpha.
A proper "hard-man" too. Got sent to borstal for demolishing someone at a party with a frying pan
I learn from his mistakes, as well as his wisdom.
Elaborate pls,Carl Froch (champion boxer) used to see him around a lot in Nottingham before he became famous
That's a funny story. What happened to the guys now?My martial arts trainer ran a gym with one of his buddies in the late 80's to early 90's. They had an open challenge that every Saturday morning, they would open the gym and fight anyone who showed up. This was pre-UFC, and before there were even toughman competitions, also before the state began regulating fights like they do now. The word spread about the two crazy guys who would fight anybody, and every Saturday morning a new car load of challengers would roll up. I asked him if they ever lost, and he said, "No. Not at our gym." But one group of guys told them about a guy in Kansas City who could beat their asses, so they jumped in a car and drove eight hours to KC. They knocked on the guy's door, and a little Japanese man opened it. He looked like Mr Miagi from The Karate Kid.
I asked him what happened next. "Oh that old man beat the sh!t out of us! He was grabbing fingers and bending them backwards; he knew every dirty trick there was, and neither of us wanted to punch him because he was old." They were just glad to meet someone who could teach them something.
Why was he kicked out?Probably a man that fought less with his hands but more with his mind. A pastor that built a billion dollar non-profit from nothing. He taught me that if you get knocked down get back up and press on. He was a hard ass, but if you worked hard and proved yourself he would reward you. I worked closely with him everyday and he was very generous with me.
Eventually he was booted out by the board of directors. They also booted out his most loyal employees. I was kicked to the curb with him and many others. Oh well get back up and move on.
It was a power struggle. His daughter aligned herself with some of the higher echelon employees and some board members. Funny thing is after they got rid of him she thought she would lead the organization. They kicked her ass to the curb too. She was to stupid to realize that she was being used. Now the organization has shrunk to about 25% of what it once was.Why was he kicked out?
That's sad. Corruption destroys everything. They were probably stealing the money and knew that the pastor would get in the way of things had he found out.It was a power struggle. His daughter aligned herself with some of the higher echelon employees and some board members. Funny thing is after they got rid of him she thought she would lead the organization. They kicked her ass to the curb too. She was to stupid to realize that she was being used. Now the organization has shrunk to about 25% of what it once was.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.