"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Plate got beta bucks "ltr" But keeps contacting me

Infern0

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So I had this plate for a while, but she has demonstrated cluster B traits so was never getting upgraded which I told her several times (and she loved, cluster b's lol)

Anyway she got a beta bucks boyfriend like a week ago which is all good but she keeps contacting me. I've been real short but polite but just trying not to engage but she's been amping up the attention seeking with seductive selfies and heart emojis etc.

Today I get a text "do you hate me cos I'm with beta bucks "

What's the deal here, I figured she had a brain.

NB

I don't want to be the guy she cheats with, for me if a girl starts a ltr I will respect the dude she's with and break off contact, even if he's AFC. I would probably hook up with her down the road when she's single again though, she's a decent plate.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dude99

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So I had this plate for a while, but she has demonstrated cluster B traits so was never getting upgraded which I told her several times (and she loved, cluster b's lol)

Anyway she got a beta bucks boyfriend like a week ago which is all good but she keeps contacting me. I've been real short but polite but just trying not to engage but she's been amping up the attention seeking with seductive selfies and heart emojis etc.

Today I get a text "do you hate me cos I'm with beta bucks "

What's the deal here, I figured she had a brain.

NB

I don't want to be the guy she cheats with, for me if a girl starts a ltr I will respect the dude she's with and break off contact, even if he's AFC. I would probably hook up with her down the road when she's single again though, she's a decent plate.
You made yourself a challenge. Women are drawn in by a guy who is a challenge. She will now move mountains to get back to you because you are showing lower and lower interest.

If you want to be rid of her act like a needy beta boy and watch how fast she dissappears
 

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I am with you, I won't mess with a girl that's in a relationship. Sounds like a fresh relationship though, so maybe they are jsut dating?

You could be straight and say that you don't mess with girls who are taken? She dumps him and stays as a plate, or she cuts you off. Save the beta bucks guy the eventual heartbreak?
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Tell her that. "I gotta respect a man in a relationship. I'll only fvck you if you're single." or something like that. Then she can break it off with her ltr and you 2 can start fvcking again. I don't see the downside to this.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

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