"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SgtSplacker

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It's funny because I have heard women say this and treat it like it's some testament to how awesome they are. Like a "worth it" badge.

Most women I meet not only expect men to always diffuse their drama but they place value in how much bs a man is willing to tolerate from them. Like as if it is a good way to gauge their smv by driving us nuts.

So acting like a complete child on one side but expecting to be treated like an adult on the other side and I still have to listen to the nonsense of women not being treated exactly like men are. When they don't maintain themselves exactly like men do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Could it also mean that you won't get or keep her if you don't pass her sh!t tests?
About as much as other women. Some women you lose by being too strong depending on the situation, others fall for you because of it. It's all dependent on the woman and what situation you are in when giving/not giving a sh!t.
 

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It's funny because I have heard women say this and treat it like it's some testament to how awesome they are. Like a "worth it" badge.

Most women I meet not only expect men to always diffuse their drama but they place value in how much bs a man is willing to tolerate from them. Like as if it is a good way to gauge their smv by driving us nuts.

So acting like a complete child on one side but expecting to be treated like an adult on the other side and I still have to listen to the nonsense of women not being treated exactly like men are. When they don't maintain themselves exactly like men do.
Yeah. I cringe when I hear, "I like a guy to put me in my place sometimes" or "I like a guy who doesn't put up with my shyte."

<Putting on my Capt. Obvious hat>

How about if you act like a mature adult so he doesn't need to "put you in your place"? Did you ever think of that lol?
 

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"If you can't live with me at the height of my bipolar depression, you don't deserve me at my normal state of mind".

This is a solid introduction to manipulation. It triggers your savior complex while also preparing you to be in direct line of fire.

Your complain, sense of self, well being, standard and value correctly deleted by one sentence.

Sometimes, you have to agree that there are some very evil, very smart, genius in psychology and highly manipulative people behind feminism.
A civilian (non DJ) is no match to them.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It means: "I don't want to be held accountable for any of my actions"

The best response is: "It goes both ways b!tch"

And she can't get mad at you for calling her a b!tch because if she can't handle you at your worst then she doesn't deserve you at your best.
:D:D:D
 

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Given its full context this statement is a red flag.

Simply put: I expect you to put up with my Sh!t! If you don't like it, your 'less' of a man and can't handle a real woman like me.

Assh0le behaviour.
 

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I swear, it's stuff like this I need to remember when I argue. She can get mad at how some girl threw herself at me and I had fun with it. Well hey babe if you can't handle me at my worst.... It'll probably work lol
 

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Who would ever want to deal with "her worst"?

I smell red flag!
 

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It's funny because I have heard women say this and treat it like it's some testament to how awesome they are. Like a "worth it" badge.

Most women I meet not only expect men to always diffuse their drama but they place value in how much bs a man is willing to tolerate from them. Like as if it is a good way to gauge their smv by driving us nuts.

So acting like a complete child on one side but expecting to be treated like an adult on the other side and I still have to listen to the nonsense of women not being treated exactly like men are. When they don't maintain themselves exactly like men do.
agreed, reminds me of a meme actually

http://images.memes.com/meme/1028878
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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the quote is just a girl's way of taking responsibility off herself, therefore it's not her job to control her insecurities, anger, jealousy, sex drive, etc. it's your job to deal with that **** because she can't control herself

naturally she doesn't want to admit that it's an enormous character flaw to lack self control, so she'd want to spin it to be a character flaw on your part so that she doesn't have to work on it
 

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the quote is just a girl's way of taking responsibility off herself, therefore it's not her job to control her insecurities, anger, jealousy, sex drive, etc. it's your job to deal with that **** because she can't control herself

naturally she doesn't want to admit that it's an enormous character flaw to lack self control, so she'd want to spin it to be a character flaw on your part so that she doesn't have to work on it
The powers of female rationalization are amazing.
 

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I have a 60 y/o friend with a hot 25 y/o wife. Sometimes I will be over at his house, and she's having a depressed day, where she just lays on the couch and cries. It totally does not phase him. He just ignores her. I think most male instinct is that they have to solve the woman's problems. They feel responsible if they can't. But there's no fixing crazy. Guys who know how to deal with it will just ignore it until her mood changes.
 

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I have a 60 y/o friend with a hot 25 y/o wife. Sometimes I will be over at his house, and she's having a depressed day, where she just lays on the couch and cries. It totally does not phase him. He just ignores her. I think most male instinct is that they have to solve the woman's problems. They feel responsible if they can't. But there's no fixing crazy. Guys who know how to deal with it will just ignore it until her mood changes.
Society trains men from a young age to be white knights and cannon fodder sacrificial lambs.

In other words.. men are trained to see female life as more valuable than male life and female happiness more important than male happiness. Women believe this by default. They truly believe they are more important than you. Never forget that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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