What the heck is going on with her?

[chris2for]

So my gf broke up with me a few weeks ago. She apologized a week later but I just was still pissed about the whole to be honest so I wasn't receptive. Anyways she and I haven't talked in weeks. Based on her snaps she seems just fine.

On Tuesday I get text from her saying hey headed home (she lives a few hours away) I left some stuff for you by the front door. I told my roommate to go outside and check and to bring it in. I replied back ok thanks. A few minutes later I sent her another text saying that my roommate just told me and that I was in LA (her city). All she said back was no problem...okay cool.

I get back to my town today and in the bag she has a note that says hope all is well. It's been a while. Ran into your roommate this weekend and heard that you're moving soon. I was just concerned so I go you a few pick me ups. Could be wrong and if I am just take it as a housewarming and pay it forward.

What the heck?

 

[Arcturus]

It's called "pitty", she's probably traded you in for what she considers an upgrade and feels sorry for you, being up and dumped like that. No contact her, you deserve a lot better than some token attempt at bs. Take some time to hit the gym, and work on self improvement.

 

[marmel75]

Lol...just ignore it..even if she told you the truth it wouldn't make any sense

 

[chris2for]

Lol...just ignore it..even if she told you the truth it wouldn't make any sense

It's called "pitty", she's probably traded you in for what she considers an upgrade and feels sorry for you, being up and dumped like that. No contact her, you deserve a lot better than some token attempt at bs. Take some time to hit the gym, and work on self improvement.

How was that a token attempt?

I'll ask this though; don't you think that when I said I'm in her city she would've at least tried to link up or something instead of just saying ohok cool?

 

[The Duke]

I'm guessing she liked you as a person, just not enough for a boyfriend and she feels bad for ending it so this is her way of trying to soften the blow.

I had a girlfriend that I broke up with several years ago. She was missing a few things personality wise but on the flip side, She was a good person, very sweet, good girlfriend, good sechs, fun times, etc. When I broke up with her it crushed her. I felt bad because I hurt somebody that was truly a good person and had a good heart. So when I returned her stuff, I gave her a card and wrote some nice things about her and thanked her for what we had. I heard from a friend that it confused her, but it was my way of saying thank you and I still thought highly of her. My intentions were not to confuse or rekindle something. Just simply wanted her to know I appreciated what we did have, but it was time to move on.

 

[Silko]

the worst you can get, when dumped, is unclair communication.

at the end you are 2 adults with a non working story. it's a duty of both to stay respectful (unless abuse or something) and try to end up with a good vibe.

My intentions were not to confuse or rekindle something. Just simply wanted her to know I appreciated what we did have, but it was time to move on.

the chance is high the other one still has hope. it's nice to write some kind words, but repeating that your choice for break-up was still the best choice should be added too, to avoid the idea of rekindling. it's a detail for the 1 who dumped, but very important for the other one.

last 2 months i was in a rolercoaster due unclair and double communication of the ex.
And then she goes suddenly cold turkey. it's horrifying and destroyes even the positive things.
A break-up is never fun, but this is dirty.

It depends the other one, but once when I broke up with a girl I gave her all the time to let her feed away slowly. After all, we became
best friends. Afterwards, she told me I did the best to help her healing.

 

[marmel75]

the worst you can get, when dumped, is unclair communication.

at the end you are 2 adults with a non working story. it's a duty of both to stay respectful (unless abuse or something) and try to end up with a good vibe.



the chance is high the other one still has hope. it's nice to write some kind words, but repeating that your choice for break-up was still the best choice should be added too, to avoid the idea of rekindling. it's a detail for the 1 who dumped, but very important for the other one.

last 2 months i was in a rolercoaster due unclair and double communication of the ex.
And then she goes suddenly cold turkey. it's horrifying and destroyes even the positive things.
A break-up is never fun, but this is dirty.

It depends the other one, but once when I broke up with a girl I gave her all the time to let her feed away slowly. After all, we became
best friends. Afterwards, she told me I did the best to help her healing.

There is no double communication, just simply you refusing to believe the truth and wanting what she says to mean something else.
Once you break up there should NEVER be any thoughts of getting back together. It's over, move on. You are a man, all that emotional BS is for women.

 

[Silko]

There is no double communication, just simply you refusing to believe the truth and wanting what she says to mean something else.

Sure double (abusive) communication exists. But also true you are able to not allow this and close the case yourself from second 1.

 

[Arcturus]

How was that a token attempt?

I'll ask this though; don't you think that when I said I'm in her city she would've at least tried to link up or something instead of just saying ohok cool?

It is a token attempt in that she's trying to make up for being guilty about dumping you, so is making a half ass effort at making you feel a bit better, with the kind words and care package. No it makes perfect sense that she didn't care you were in her city, because shes not interested in hanging out or dating you. Look man rejection always hurts and it always sucks, but it is a double edged sword. It will provide the fuel for you to have the motivation to work on yourself and build much stronger game. If you make the most of this situation, you will arrive at a point where you'll be with a much hotter/better girl a few years from now, thanking this one for moving out of your life so you could find better. You'll also appreciate all the growth and improvement this situation created eventually for you. You'll get to a point where you could have her but won't want her anymore, because your standards have gone so far past her.

 

[Silko]

You'll get to a point where you could have her but won't want her anymore, because your standards have gone so far past her.

When you look back, you should indeed be there. Otherwise, you didn't move on.

 

[RangerMIke]

Monkey branch guilt.... She's done with you... use this gift to go find better women. Take the pain of rejection and turn it to action to improve yourself. Improve yourself.... become a better man and you will find girls twice as good as that one.

 

[chris2for]

Monkey branch guilt.... She's done with you... use this gift to go find better women. Take the pain of rejection and turn it to action to improve yourself. Improve yourself.... become a better man and you will find girls twice as good as that one.

Thanks. I appreciate the insight.

Well she just put some old inside jokes kind of gifts inside of the bag. A movie I like. Favorite candy bar. A joke. Just a few of those things.

So no matter the content of the bag, how thoughtful it was, or the effort she put into it if she didn't say she had missed me, wanted to get together, or anything of that nature I should just take the bag as a friendly gesture?

 

[chris2for]

I'm guessing she liked you as a person, just not enough for a boyfriend and she feels bad for ending it so this is her way of trying to soften the blow.

I had a girlfriend that I broke up with several years ago. She was missing a few things personality wise but on the flip side, She was a good person, very sweet, good girlfriend, good sechs, fun times, etc. When I broke up with her it crushed her. I felt bad because I hurt somebody that was truly a good person and had a good heart. So when I returned her stuff, I gave her a card and wrote some nice things about her and thanked her for what we had. I heard from a friend that it confused her, but it was my way of saying thank you and I still thought highly of her. My intentions were not to confuse or rekindle something. Just simply wanted her to know I appreciated what we did have, but it was time to move on.

Damn that story hit home haha. Curious, did she say thank you for the card or anything?

 

[The Duke]

Damn that story hit home haha. Curious, did she say thank you for the card or anything?

Nope, but 2yrs later we hung out and she reminded me that I hurt her. She was over it by then, but she wasn't going to come running back to me, although she wished I would have begged her for forgiveness and tried to get in her good graces. I wasn't going to beg or plead for anything, that relinquishes all power.

 

[El Payaso]

She's hoovering.

 

[Poon King]

A woman should only get once chance per lifetime to ever dump you.

This is what it means to have self-respect. You don't waste time on women who are not attracted to you. So why are you still talking to this b!tch? Once a woman dumps you she is toast. You have to move on. I don't care if she claims she wants to get back together or she "made a mistake". Once she dumps you she is down to sex toy/booty call status for life if anything. B!tches get ONE chance with you. That's it. Respect yourself.

Once a woman knows she can disrespect you and you will respond with "Thank you.. may I have another?" she knows you're a faggot. She will take advantage of this down the road. I would do the same thing. If I can treat a b!tch like dirt and she responds by treating me even better than before.. then I learn its best to treat her like dirt.

Dignity > Women

Giving a woman another chance to reject you or dump you is a sign of desperation, low self-esteem and low value. Stop being emo faggots and learn to walk away from manipulative c*nts.

 

[dude99]

A woman should only get once chance per lifetime to ever dump you.

This is what it means to have self-respect. You don't waste time on women who are not attracted to you. So why are you still talking to this b!tch? Once a woman dumps you she is toast. You have to move on. I don't care if she claims she wants to get back together or she "made a mistake". Once she dumps you she is down to sex toy/booty call status for life if anything. B!tches get ONE chance with you. That's it. Respect yourself.

Once a woman knows she can disrespect you and you will respond with "Thank you.. may I have another?" she knows you're a faggot. She will take advantage of this down the road. I would do the same thing. If I can treat a b!tch like dirt and she responds by treating me even better than before.. then I learn its best to treat her like dirt.

Dignity > Women

Giving a woman another chance to reject you or dump you is a sign of desperation, low self-esteem and low value. Stop being emo faggots and learn to walk away from manipulative c*nts.

Bang on 100%. 1 chance per lifetime. Couldn't agree more.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

Women will dump men multiple times just for the fun watching them fall. It's like Lucy from Peanuts with the football. She wants you to keep trying to kick it. I genuinely feel bad when I have to dump a nice person. Women do not. They love it. Don't give her the satisfaction. Walk away, Charlie Brown!

 

[Silko]

Dignity > Women

Giving a woman another chance to reject you or dump you is a sign of desperation, low self-esteem and low value. Stop being emo faggots and learn to walk away from manipulative c*nts.

Don't doubt a second, even when in tears, about that manipulative ... otherwise they would behave sincere and thought twice before ending the LTR, and even have maybe an open chat to communicate (better). Rather a basic for more stable things.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

She might be on her period.... or close to it....