Is she just playing hard to get or she isn't into me?

[cclemon]

So, I met this girl on Tinder. We started talking, quickly got her number, texted her for like 1 week. She did't want to hang out at first (gave busy weekend excuse). but accepted to meet me today on the college we both study (different times, so we don't see each other normally).

Can't call it a "date", it was fast (40 minutes only) and crowded, so I could not do much, but the conversation was good and she showed interest (body signals, like showing her neck, accepting light touchs, etc).

When I got home (2 hours after our "date"), we talked a little bit, then I asked her out tomorrow. It went like this:
(...)
Me: See you on X tomorrow. At 8 is a good time for you?
She: You're going fast
She: Hahahahahah
She: That's good to know you liked me
Me: Yes, you are pleasing me a lot. But I need to know you better. Online chatting is cool and all, but face to face is much better.
She: I agree
She:
(some more unimportant talk)

I can't understand, she shows signals that she likes me (body hints on our "date" and "That's good to know you liked me" message), but does not want to hang out. What am I doing wrong? Is she just playing hard to get or she isn't into me? How can I act in this situation?

What do you guys think?
Thanks!

 

[dustmuffin]

She wants an orbiter. Free entertainment when she is bored. If she dosen't want to go out with you move along. You are wasting your time.

I wouldn't waste any more time on her. Ask her out. Escalate...if she says no then bail.

 

[cola]

So, I met this girl on Tinder. We started talking, quickly got her number, texted her for like 1 week. She did't want to hang out at first (gave busy weekend excuse). but accepted to meet me today on the college we both study (different times, so we don't see each other normally).

Can't call it a "date", it was fast (40 minutes only) and crowded, so I could not do much, but the conversation was good and she showed interest (body signals, like showing her neck, accepting light touchs, etc).

When I got home (2 hours after our "date"), we talked a little bit, then I asked her out tomorrow. It went like this:
(...)
Me: See you on X tomorrow. At 8 is a good time for you?
She: You're going fast
She: Hahahahahah
She: That's good to know you liked me
Me: Yes, you are pleasing me a lot. But I need to know you better. Online chatting is cool and all, but face to face is much better.
She: I agree
She:
(some more unimportant talk)

I can't understand, she shows signals that she likes me (body hints on our "date" and "That's good to know you liked me" message), but does not want to hang out. What am I doing wrong? Is she just playing hard to get or she isn't into me? How can I act in this situation?

What do you guys think?
Thanks!

You come off as needy. Tone it down.

1. Dont text a girl right after a date. They need that time to wonder if they made a good impression on you.

2. Dont schedule dates back to back for a loong time after you start dating. The goal is to look busy and with other options.

You'll run girls off if you keep this up. Good chance you already ruined it with this one

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

She told you: you are moving too fast. You guys JUST hung out and now you're asking her out again the day after? Gotta cool it man. Once you have her, scarcity = value.

 

[marmel75]

So, I met this girl on Tinder. We started talking, quickly got her number, texted her for like 1 week. She did't want to hang out at first (gave busy weekend excuse). but accepted to meet me today on the college we both study (different times, so we don't see each other normally).

Can't call it a "date", it was fast (40 minutes only) and crowded, so I could not do much, but the conversation was good and she showed interest (body signals, like showing her neck, accepting light touchs, etc).

When I got home (2 hours after our "date"), we talked a little bit, then I asked her out tomorrow. It went like this:
(...)
Me: See you on X tomorrow. At 8 is a good time for you?
She: You're going fast
She: Hahahahahah
She: That's good to know you liked me
Me: Yes, you are pleasing me a lot. But I need to know you better. Online chatting is cool and all, but face to face is much better.
She: I agree
She:
(some more unimportant talk)

I can't understand, she shows signals that she likes me (body hints on our "date" and "That's good to know you liked me" message), but does not want to hang out. What am I doing wrong? Is she just playing hard to get or she isn't into me? How can I act in this situation?

What do you guys think?
Thanks!

You made it obvious you have no other options and have nothing else going on in your life. Major turnoff. And stop texting chicks for a week. You text them a few times and ask them out.

Are you trying to date and fvck them or become their girlfriend?

 

[cclemon]

First, I want to let you know that I agree with you all, I screwed up, I'm not arguing.
I think I was acting so needy probably because I ended up a relationship recently (two months) and unconsciously I am looking for a rebound relationship...

But, do you think there is still a chance turn things around (one last attempt, maybe)? I know, I should not focus myself on just one girl and move on, and I will. I plan to ask other two girls out in the next days, but I don't want to give up so easily on this girl (neither try too hard), because she is the one I liked the most so far.

Thanks for the replies guys!

 

[Trump]

Give him a break. He's in college at an age and time where everything resolves around girls.

You can always turn things around with girls. Just don't value them. Text her saying "Would you like to join me for a drink" at a place you can escalate. If she says yes, go for it.

 

[Infern0]

Wait until she texts you then ask her to go for a drink.

Don't do no more daytime dates and stop chit chatting via text

This one is salvageable but I've got a feeling you are going to mess up more, you need to learn the basics.

Also learn to listen to what girls say, this one straight up told you you were moving too fast, most won't do that and will just start ignoring you

 

[cclemon]

I'm trying to relearn how to be alpha! I dated for 6 years, I'm really rusty.

Ok, here is an update:
Today I didn't talk to her the hole day (we used to talk a little through the day). At night I went to the place I invited her yesterday (a bar) without her and with a friend (because I really wanted to go there). Did a "check in" on facebook on this bar. She saw it and instantily sent me a message on whatsapp (like 30 seconds after):

She: You did go there!
She: hahaha
Me: I'm a man of my word, girl.
She: Yes, I see
She: hahaha

End of conversation.
I may be wrong, but I think I won some points with her, showing that I don't need her to enjoy the places I want to go, so I'm not THAT needy and I have a life. Do you think I did well or should I have done something different (ignored her, invited her to go there, etc)? And what should be the next steps?

Thanks for the help!

 

[Infern0]

I'm trying to relearn how to be alpha! I dated for 6 years, I'm really rusty.

Ok, here is an update:
Today I didn't talk to her the hole day (we used to talk a little through the day). At night I went to the place I invited her yesterday (a bar) without her and with a friend (because I really wanted to go there). Did a "check in" on facebook on this bar. She saw it and instantily sent me a message on whatsapp (like 30 seconds after):

She: You did go there!
She: hahaha
Me: I'm a man of my word, girl.
She: Yes, I see
She: hahaha

End of conversation.
I may be wrong, but I think I won some points with her, showing that I don't need her to enjoy the places I want to go, so I'm not THAT needy and I have a life. Do you think I did well or should I have done something different (ignored her, invited her to go there, etc)? And what should be the next steps?

Thanks for the help!

You didn't reply to the message while you were at the bar did you?

Do yourself a favour regardless and read the dj bible

 

[RangerMIke]

You are too concerned about this one girl. No matter how hard you try to hide your attraction for her she will pick up on this and she will back off. Stop thinking about her and go after other girls. If she likes you she will come around.

 

[cclemon]

You didn't reply to the message while you were at the bar did you?

Do yourself a favour regardless and read the dj bible

Yes, I did. But not instantly, like 40 minutes later. Is it that really a bad thing? Here where I live, everyone use the phone to talk with other people while in a bar.
Anyway, I will read the dj bible

You are too concerned about this one girl. No matter how hard you try to hide your attraction for her she will pick up on this and she will back off. Stop thinking about her and go after other girls. If she likes you she will come around.

You're right, man, I will do as you say.

Thanks!

 

[EyeBRollin]

she's into you... for now. But you gotta cool your jets. Back off. Wait a week. You can turn this one around easily.

Here's what you do:

Next time she texts you, dry text her back. Let the convo die, with her sending the last text. Text her at least a week after that and ask her out again. Her hamster will be spinning in the meantime. If she double-texts between her last text and starts a new convo, ask her out then. If she doesn't agree to go out with you, ghost again until she contacts you. She'll either submit to going out with you or stop texting you.