Should I try again or next her

[Bayne05]

Met this chick last Friday and number closed her then we started chatting on WhatsApp. We seemed to vibe, I was getting alot lols and smiley faces. I actually threw in a few tests to see where I stand with her and she passed. So on Sunday I decided to ask her out on a date for Wednesday, drinks then take a walk on the beach. After we scheduled that I went NC until Wednesday

Now here's when things went south... On Wednesday one hour before we met I send a text to confirm if the date is still on, she says she's coming. I arrive there 5 minutes late she's not there. I waited another 15 then she sends a message saying she's late she's on her way. I gave her another 10, then I left. 30 minutes later she calls( that's now one hour late). I ignore the phone. Then she calls 10 minutes later I answer the phone:

Me: Hello
Her: Hi, I'm on my way where are you?
Me: Where are you?
Her: I'm at X place now (10 minutes away)
Me: What time is it on your phone?
Her: *says time* (now it's 1.20 hour late)
Me: What time were we suppose to meet up?
Her: X time, but you didn't answer your phone so blah blah blah...
Me: *hangs up*

She then sends a message "I don't know what's going on but you need to make it clear if we meeting or not".
I ignored the message.

Did I over react? She seemed to be full of herself to me and didn't respect my time, on top of that says it's my fault she's late? It's bugging me because I was looking forward to this date she seemed cool but everything went wrong so fast. Should I reconcile with her?

 

[Aesthetix29]

No ... She has to make it up to you, need to let her know that she crossed the line and and it's unacceptable.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

I would have stayed and had some drinks at the meet up place. Check out the action there and still would have had fun doing it on my own.

When and if she finally showed up I would have busted her pretty good for her being late, sarcasm etc.

That's makes no sense that she is blaming you for being late? This just sounds like a flake but she wouldn't own up to it. Oh well.

 

[Bayne05]

No ... She has to make it up to you, need to let her know that she crossed the line and and it's unacceptable.

Definitely crossed the line, I was actually disappointed rather than pissed. She didn't even seem apologetic about it.

 

[Bayne05]

I would have stayed and had some drinks at the meet up place. Check out the action there and still would have had fun doing it on my own.

When and if she finally showed up I would have busted her pretty good for her being late, sarcasm etc.

That's makes no sense that she is blaming you for being late? This just sounds like a flake but she wouldn't own up to it. Oh well.

I would've done that too but already had another chick on standby until after the date so I went back to my place and I called her in.
I also don't get how this was my fault which is why I hang up, I don't have to listen to this crap.

 

[marmel75]

Let her know you don't tolerate that type of behavior from women and if she is interested in meeting up she needs to figure out how she plans on making it up to you and get back to you with the details and you'll decide if that's acceptable or not.

 

[TheGambino]

1.20 hour late!

I think it's a strong move to hang up and not go there like a desperate afc would do. Some guys would even come out of bed at 3 p.m. for a chance for pvsy, nice. Tell her you don't accept behavior like that and then give her another chance, and on the date act like it never happened and have fun.

 

[cola]

Im so proud of you.
Your time is valuable. Next her ass and find you someone punctual

Seriously, well done bro.
Unless she initiates contact move on.

 

[The Duke]

you did good man! Even if this girl stepped up and came thru for a 2nd attempt, she will still be a pain in the arse in the long run. Either they are onboard or they aren't. I've had several play the same silly games this one played with you.

 

[EyeBRollin]

If she is later than a half hour, just leave. It's up to her to ever see you again.

 

[pyros]

First date:
a) she arrives 1 hour and 20 mintes late
b) she doesnt seem apologethic.
c) she says it is your fault.

She can go to hell because... SHE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU.
You did fine.

A few years ago I had a date who arrived 30 minutes late. She was all this time telling me she would arrive in 5 minutes. Well, it took her 30. I got pissed and told her in a nice but firm tone that she should arrive on time, and that I wont wait for her the next time.

Well, on our second date, she was suposed to come at my place at 5 pm. At 5:20 I texted her, and she replied that she was about to arrive.
At 5:40 I texted her again, and she said that she got the wrong bus blah, blah. Well, at 6:10 I left my place and went to the gym without letting her know. She arrive at 6:25. She called me, texted me several times, but I ignored everything. She got super mad at me, texted me and cursed me, etc, etc.
Well, I didnt really wanted to see her again after so we did not communicate in around 5 days...until SHE texted me.
We had a third date (actually second), because SHE wanted, not because I asked her out.
She arrived in time, and we fvcked.

Moral of the story? dont allow them to give you second class behaviour. Sometimes you have to show them that you are not an afc, so you dont mind to drop their asses at any moment. This is shocking for many women, so by doing this they change the way they see you, in other words, from AFC to ALPHA.

 

[Fireballs]

90% of guys would have waited around for her like a chump .. You showed her that you're not afraid to walk away, so good job.

 

[Trump]

Met this chick last Friday and number closed her then we started chatting on WhatsApp. We seemed to vibe, I was getting alot lols and smiley faces. I actually threw in a few tests to see where I stand with her and she passed. So on Sunday I decided to ask her out on a date for Wednesday, drinks then take a walk on the beach. After we scheduled that I went NC until Wednesday

Now here's when things went south... On Wednesday one hour before we met I send a text to confirm if the date is still on, she says she's coming.

You don't talk to her for 4 days. 60 minutes before you are to meet her you text her to confirm? That's pushing it.

I arrive there 5 minutes late she's not there.

Bro why didn't you pick her up in your car? If I am excited and want a date to work out, I arrive 10 minutes early.

I waited another 15 then she sends a message saying she's late she's on her way. I gave her another 10, then I left.

As soon as you arrived you should have texted her 'I'm here at the table.' She doesn't arrive in 15 minutes, you call her. If you were leaving, you should have texted her 'Hey, I'm here but have to go, I have another appointment.

30 minutes later she calls( that's now one hour late). I ignore the phone.

Why did you ignore the phone?

Then she calls 10 minutes later I answer the phone:

Me: Hello
Her: Hi, I'm on my way where are you?
Me: Where are you?
Her: I'm at X place now (10 minutes away)
Me: What time is it on your phone?
Her: *says time* (now it's 1.20 hour late)
Me: What time were we suppose to meet up?
Her: X time, but you didn't answer your phone so blah blah blah...
Me: *hangs up*

She then sends a message "I don't know what's going on but you need to make it clear if we meeting or not".
I ignored the message.

Did I over react? She seemed to be full of herself to me and didn't respect my time, on top of that says it's my fault she's late? It's bugging me because I was looking forward to this date she seemed cool but everything went wrong so fast. Should I reconcile with her?

I think you wanted it to go south because she wasn't good looking enough and you wanted to feel like the man to ditch her and walk away. If this was a movie star, you would probably act differently.

 

[Bayne05]

Appreciate the responses DJs, I guess I'll have to see if she comes back to me if not oh well I move on.

@Trump, time wasting is intolerable in any situation, it's even more infuriating when the time waster doesn't admit to the mistake and expects you to let it slide.
And she's like an 8 but she's no movie star I don't see a reason why I should treat her like one.