"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Says "I just need a little time to myself"...HELP?

arathorngr

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I am a big boy and I can take it, hell I DESERVE a thrashing at this point about letting things get to this point. Thanks both of you for the thrashing I needed lol.
Man, I ve done worse in the past. I ve CRIED in front of a woman cause she broke up with me.
Guess what, she came back after 5 months. But in these 5 months I managed to be a MAN again and I ignored EVERY ONE of her "Hey", "Whats up", "How are you" bull**** texts.
YOU WERE GIVEN TERRIBLE ADVICE IN THIS THREAD. GO GHOST NOW
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Man, I ve done worse in the past. I ve CRIED in front of a woman cause she broke up with me.
Guess what, she came back after 5 months. But in these 5 months I managed to be a MAN again and I ignored EVERY ONE of her "Hey", "Whats up", "How are you" bull**** texts.
YOU WERE GIVEN TERRIBLE ADVICE IN THIS THREAD. GO GHOST NOW
I've never cried lol. Felt like it once, left instead with a smile on my face. Till I got down the road anyway, then I thought I was going to throw up.
 

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I've never cried lol. Felt like it once, left instead with a smile on my face. Till I got down the road anyway, then I thought I was going to throw up.
Of course you did. Of course you had difficulty sleeping some days. Of course you always had/have her on your mind.
ALL THIS is understandable. WE ALL have suffered and you know what? WHO GIVES A **** if you were AFC etc etc.
You are not a robot. You re a MAN. You win some, you lose some.
Listen to "My way" by F.Sinatra.
Yes, he cried and suffered etc.
That makes him human.

A MAN has emotions. He just knows how to control them.

Do what is right. Don't be ashamed of you. This will make you bitter towards women.
And this is NOT a manly trait at all :)
 

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"indifferent" would have been NOT going over and tying your boat up with them..... everything else you did was "checking for f&ckability".... she knows it, you know it, we all know it.....
 

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Oh lord.

You are now officially an orbiter. You know the one where mom & cousin etc. say. "Where's @Glassguy? He's such a nice guy..." And then she rolls her eyes.

It's 4th & 25 from your own end zone. Please punt.

Seriously at this point go NC no matter what & block her since you are too tempted to come breathlessly running back if she says "boo".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Glass Guy - Stop entertaining biatches like this. All you do is reinforce their schitty behavior and perpetuate the problem. There reaches a point where enough is enough. You might as well be a white knight beta chump. You talk a big game but you sure are stuck on stupid. Talk is cheap dude. Just look at this thread.....7pages of mental masterbation. Getting girls only gets this difficult when you are wasting your time.
 
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Just now reading this. Wow

The fact this thread is 7 pages is an epic fail...

OP, you will inevitably fail regardless of whatever strategy you employ...

Because you care entirely too much

Nothing more needs to be said. Good luck
 
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