Says "I just need a little time to myself"...HELP?

[The Duke]

Glassguy- I get the same damn thing, all time and still don't get it.

 

[Glassguy]

Well she didn't come over tonight...has her daughter, blah blah blah. I switched gears, she seemed to be all about it and then heard nothing from her in 6 hours. No big deal. Back to being fvcking indifferent.....and not contacting her.

 

[Prime_Beef]

Liveyourdream is correct but also suspect another rooster in the hen house causing static on the line.

 

[arathorngr]

Go NC without any explanation NOW.
She is stringing you along.
Maybe there is another man, maybe not.
Let her chase you hard and for many days.

This is your last chance. You ve already gave her all the power THIS is why she blows you. She doesnt feel she has to make any effort.

 

[LiveFreeX]

5. A single mom who has nothing going for her except her kid who would just love a free ride and someone to take care of her mistakes.

Just one question: How desperate are you???

 

[Once Bitten]

5. A single mom who has nothing going for her except her kid who would just love a free ride and someone to take care of her mistakes.

Just one question: How desperate are you???

This is probably what she's thinking. If you don't want the "mangina" treatment you may want to consider walking. Now.
At this point this is what value you have, or so I'm thinking.

 

[Glassguy]

Already started walking away. I have been on a roll for 6 months casually dating women. This one was great in bed and we had lots of fun together. I let my guard down a little and slightly lost my frame and had dropped a couple others i was casually dating in the process. Lesson learned.

1000s of women out there and I don't need the frustration from one. Complete NC with this one started last night.

 

[Once Bitten]

Keep looking, sounds like your next one will go better. Like you said there's others out there, they usually show up when you're least expecting it.
I let one get away a while back because I wasn't on my game at all and kicking myself for it.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Not NC but NvC (Never Contact)

 

[Glassguy]

Not NC but NvC (Never Contact)

Ironic that you said that. I woke up this morning to a text she sent at 1am last night. "Are you still awake?".

No I wasn't lol.

 

[arathorngr]

Ironic that you said that. I woke up this morning to a text she sent at 1am last night. "Are you still awake?".

No I wasn't lol.

DO NOT RESPOND AND DONT GIVE ANY EXPLANATION IF SHE ASKS YOU WHY.

 

[LiveFreeX]

And when she does, then its the time to also NEVER CONTACT.

I'm married and I pickup women (for friendships for my wife) all the time just to keep my skills hot. You can EASILY pickup single, unmarried, young, hot girls with a little internalized game and have them constantly hitting on you and trying to get your attention. When I was single I would come home each day with a pile of little phone numbers in my pocket and dump them against another pile I had made on the wall.

Women are a dime a dozen for a guy with game.

 

[Glassguy]

Her hamster was spinning! She was worrying/imagining that you might be with/fvcking another woman. She wanted you to reply to alleviate her worry and/or to create friction between you and any woman you happen to be with at the time.

If the woman you were with, were to see it, she very likely would have become quite irritated and even asked why is another woman texting you at 1 AM, while you are with/fvcking me? Who is she? Women obviously know how how to mess with other women. But of course it was just 'an innocent text'---not.

This woman doesn't want to be forgotten. Whether she is willing to be with you or not, she doesn't like the idea of you being with other women. Stay NC!

Her hamster will continue to spin wondering about it! She'll be blowing up your phone. No explanations about what you were up to at 1 AM or why you didn't reply. NC!

She must have seen me in the town we both own businesses at Friday night and she texted me around 9pm-

Her: Whatcha doing in _______?
Me: A friend and I are grabbing a bite to eat and a beer and then heading to a party
Her: oh ok, sounds awesome..have fun!
Me: you have a good evening too

Then she texted me at 2am.....I didnt respond. She texted me yesterday morning and said:
Her: I was just going to send you something funny
Me: Really????
Her: Not really....we are boating on the river today
Me: sounds fun
Her: Bring your boat and come up
Me: My buddy is wanting to go out on my boat and drink some beers. Maybe we will see you out there

So we ran into them on the river. They had 4 boats tied up together and when I got there I stayed back a little ways. She texted me "your so far away....are you coming over?". I went over and tied my boat off to one of theirs and started talking to some people that I knew and before I realized it, 30 minutes went by and I really hadnt talked to her except a few smiles here and there. She offered food, so I went over on their boat and talked to her for a few minutes and talked to her mom. No real convo so to speak of until she was laying out on a float with her cousin and asked me if I wanted to swim over. I go over and she spent most of the time talking with her cousin to me and talking about the vacation they all went on. Before we left, I jumped on one of their jet skis to take a quick ride. I asked her if she wanted to take a ride and she just smiled and said "no". I thought if she jumped on I would take her way down the river and see what happened..but oh well.

Her mom sent me a fb message this morning saying "it was good to see you and I am glad you came up and hung out with us yesterday". I only responded with "I am glad we did to....its always fun hanging out with you guys. Maybe later on we can do it again".

Live- you're right. She either wanted to see if I would respond or wondered if I was with someone else when she sent me a 2am text. I very much doubt that she wanted to talk about things.

I wasnt aloof yesterday when we all hung out, but I was very indifferent. I feel as though she could have made an effort to show she was interested by coming over on my boat or jumping on the jet ski with me. If we had time alone I think it would help get the elephant out of the room but she has made no effort for that to happen in the past 2 weeks.

My buddy even asked me if she was butt hurt because she just acted distant, in his words "I wouldnt have know you two went out for 2 months, thats for sure".

 

[arathorngr]

Told you to go NC but you chose to still engange her.
You should have gone NC THE MOMENT you broke up.
Read my thread. I brought her back.
I ****ed her, now she chases me. Today i got 10 texts from her, i initiated none.
SHE chases me now.
BUT I WENT NC AFTER THE BREAKUP IMMEDIATELY.

 

[Glassguy]

Told you to go NC but you chose to still engange her.
You should have gone NC THE MOMENT you broke up.
Read my thread. I brought her back.
I ****ed her, now she chases me. Today i got 10 texts from her, i initiated none.
SHE chases me now.
BUT I WENT NC AFTER THE BREAKUP IMMEDIATELY.

Are you talking about no contact or not initiating contact? I am assuming you are responding back just enough to keep her chasing?

 

[arathorngr]

I mean NOT RESPONDING at all, till she blows up your phone or something.
You are too easy, she knows you re there.
I disagree with the woman above, IT IS salvageable but you need to disappear.
You got some terrible advice in this thread, the inly thing you should have done was to dissapear asap.
No talks, no nothing.
NEVER LISTEN TO WOMEN ABOUT WOMEN AGAIN.

 

[Igetit!]

@Glassguy--The moment you re-engaged you think/say you were acting indifferent, but your words don't fool anyone. You were chasing, every step of the way. You buried yourself. To me, you acted like a man with no life and no self respect.

You paraded yourself and your apparent desperation, to her, her mom, her cousin, your friend and for all there to see. You chased her and sought her attention, in this case, just by responding and then actually showing up. She took in your attention from afar, but it didn't really mean much to her anymore because any value you had in her eyes, you completely trashed with your pandering behavior. You demeaned yourself massively, for her. I suspect you don't even see it.

At this point, to her, you offer her nothing more than to satisfy her curiosity, to see how wiling you are to respond to her, when she has a whim, while you gain nothing. If she's ever desperate she may reach out for a quick lay or a quick ego boost. All that would simply satisfy her and has nothing to do with who you are really. To be clear, you demeaned yourself to the degree that your attention isn't really even an ego hit to her any more, it's mere curiosity

I know this all sounds harsh. It's actually the toned down version.

I cannot encourage you enough to walk away from this woman and to focus on you and your sense of self-respect. Learn what it is to be centered and stay centered around women. Take your interactions with this woman as a wake-up call, a big-one. If you don't, you will likely find yourself on the other side of a ltr relationship having been treated absolutely horribly, wondering how/why the heck that happened.

You just demeaned yourself massively, for this woman. No woman or pvssy is ever worth demeaning yourself for. Never be willing to trade your self-respect for the attention of a woman.

This pretty much sums it all up.......but it's clearly pointless to tell him anything.....he has oneitis. Nothing anybody has said,nothing SHE HAS DONE,or any behavior she's exhibited has had any effect in making him see reality. He reminds me of the movie "The Matrix".....where there's reality,and then there's a fake reality created to keep people blind and deceived. He's CHOSEN to ignore reality and stay in the dream world to keep his dream of him and this girl being together alive.

Reading this thread.....it reminds me of someone taking a piece of food and holding it in the air over a dog's head just out of reach,and making the dog stand on it's hind legs,beg for it. Move it to the left,the dog goes to the left,to the right,it goes to the right. Make it go in circles,the dog twirls around in circles....like it's doing ballet on it's tiptoes

That's what this girl is doing. Every text,every bit of attention she shows the OP,he immediately hops up on his hind legs,like a dog begging for a treat......and the sad part about it is,he actually thinks he's being "indifferent".

Made this thread two weeks ago,and is still running around in circles.....no progress has been made,no closer to getting her back than he was when he first started......(yet in his mind,he probably thinks they're going to get back together any second now).

That's why in my previous reply,I asked him if there was ANYTHING this girl could do that would make him lose interest. I see the answer is clearly "NO" now.

I do believe that at ONE POINT this may have been fixable.....but not now. He's simply made too many extra errors and mistakes. The whole line of flat out telling her he wanted to fvck out of the blue....that was RIDICULOUS. That wasn't out of strength,it was out of weakness.....out of DESPERATION. All he did was come off as incongruent.

This will end at some point,though. Since he's not willing to walk away,it'll likely end when either she finds someone she does want to date,or she simply gets bored of toying with him.

 

[Igetit!]

I mean NOT RESPONDING at all, till she blows up your phone or something.
You are too easy, she knows you re there.
I disagree with the woman above, IT IS salvageable but you need to disappear.

It MIGHT BE salvage-able.....might.....it MIGHT BE,but the OP clearly doesn't have the strength or knowledge of what to do to turn it around. Also,he's made ADDITIONAL mistakes since starting this thread.

It's like getting in a car,and you start driving...heading off to your destination. You drive 50 miles,then you suddenly realize you're headed in the wrong direction.....so you stop and turn around.

Ok.....you're headed in the right direction now....that's great....but guess what? You might be headed in the right direction,but that 50 miles STILL HAS TO BE MADE UP. You didn't start from zero when turned around.......you have to go 50 miles JUST TO START at the beginning.....just TO START from zero.

That's what he did here,only......he's CONTINUING to go in the wrong direction....he hasn't stopped yet. He actually thinks he's been being indifferent with her.

That's the thing....yeah,anything is possible,but first he has to STOP. He can't get started in the right direction if he won't stop first. And even if he were to stop today.....he's been driving for so long in the wrong direction,it's likely not worth it....there's simply too much ground and distance to cover......and the chick's emotions aren't gonna just sit still and wait for him to get it all together.

You got some terrible advice in this thread, the inly thing you should have done was to dissapear asap.
No talks, no nothing.
NEVER LISTEN TO WOMEN ABOUT WOMEN AGAIN.

Ok,umm.....Well I'm curious.....

At this point,what would you suggest he do to turn this fiasco around???

 

[Glassguy]

I am a big boy and I can take it, hell I DESERVE a thrashing at this point about letting things get to this point. Thanks both of you for the thrashing I needed lol.

 

[arathorngr]

It MIGHT BE salvage-able.....might.....it MIGHT BE,but the OP clearly doesn't have the strength or knowledge of what to do to turn it around. Also,he's made ADDITIONAL mistakes since starting this thread.

It's like getting in a car,and you start driving...heading off to your destination. You drive 50 miles,then you suddenly realize you're headed in the wrong direction.....so you stop and turn around.

Ok.....you're headed in the right direction now....that's great....but guess what? You might be headed in the right direction,but that 50 miles STILL HAS TO BE MADE UP. You didn't start from zero when turned around.......you have to go 50 miles JUST TO START at the beginning.....just TO START from zero.

That's what he did here,only......he's CONTINUING to go in the wrong direction....he hasn't stopped yet. He actually thinks he's been being indifferent with her.

That's the thing....yeah,anything is possible,but first he has to STOP. He can't get started in the right direction if he won't stop first. And even if he were to stop today.....he's been driving for so long in the wrong direction,it's likely not worth it....there's simply too much ground and distance to cover......and the chick's emotions aren't gonna just sit still and wait for him to get it all together.





Ok,umm.....Well I'm curious.....

At this point,what would you suggest he do to turn this fiasco around???

Completely dissapear and not respond to anything she initiates.
Let her get curious, then frustrated, then play the "pitty me" card, then she'll get angry, then anxious, then she ll want to see him.
Then he should reject her and wait some more.
THIS could work.