Interesting. Did you respond?Day 35 or something.
The ex sent an email yesterday saying sorry for how she behaved.
Be VERY, VERY careful. Do not take responding or engaging back lightly, in any way. You may feel immune right now after 35 days NC. Men often do. Opening the door and engaging again, has the potential to mess with you more than you can imagine. Many would advocate stay NC.Day 35 or something.
The ex sent an email yesterday saying sorry for how she behaved.
Well done glassguy for having the fortitude to maintain your form under such obvious provocation from your ex. I know how difficult it is. My ex once came over to me at the supermarket checkout aisle with her new boyfriend and queued behind me deliberately even though there were other free checkout aisles available. The evil b1atch. I never even spoke to her and her boyfriend was horrified.I think that I'm past day 60 now. Not sure because I really don't keep track anymore.
I did see my ex on the golf course yesterday. She was playing with her new bf, her parents and her brother. Her mother and brother actually came over to say hello to me before they started their round. They were a hole and a half behind us, but still awkward. I noticed that she was glaring over my way several times and when she knew they were in my view she would go out of her way to grab his arm, obnoxiously laugh really loud......very corny and childish to be honest.
I just shook that sh!t off and kept focus on my game since I was under par and honestly past the point of giving a fvck. I am down 20 lbs, athletic and have a great tan going on right now and I am sure that she noticed that lol.
One thing that stuck out is that she cut her hair so short that it was just to her neck line. Very odd. Good for her because that stuff doesnt phase me anymore.
^^^^THIS^^^^Be VERY, VERY careful. Do not take responding or engaging back lightly, in any way. You may feel immune right now after 35 days NC. Men often do. Opening the door and engaging again, has the potential to mess with you more than you can imagine. Many would advocate stay NC.
If you do respond, realize the risks and only do so with massive levels of centeredness. Realize your response is what will feed her satisfaction and also has the potential to restart another cycle of you two sleeping together and being together and breaking up, all over again. Especially in your case @finality she can affect you like a drug given to a former addict. Treat her and interacting with her (on any level) with no less caution.
Ten days is actually quite fortunate. Some men lose themselves into another cycle with the woman. Some lose years of their life, because they thought/hoped that she and he are both different now, so this time getting back together will be the special one where it will/can finally work out for the two of them. I understand the draw and the temptation. Be VERY, VERY careful with your choices, when opening the door to reengage on any level.^^^^THIS^^^^
Look at what I did last week. After 60 days NC she emailed me to say sorry how we broke up and I responded and it took me back and taken me ten days to recover my frame again.
Hmm... I was on the fence considering making contact with my ex to apologize to what I did to her. I am now off that fence... My "no-contact" is a very different kind of thing though, it is more out of respect for her and the thing that would help her heal than for me trying to control any longing that I feel.^^^^THIS^^^^
Look at what I did last week. After 60 days NC she emailed me to say sorry how we broke up and I responded and it took me back and taken me ten days to recover my frame again.
If u aint replying like "b1tch i aint fvcking with you", then dont even bother replying at all. Trust us on this one, u will feel a lot better when u realize that she is the one chasing after u now, and u dont give a sh1t.My ex fiance just texted me "Happy birthday. I hope you have a great day!".
I thought about waiting 5 hours or so and simply responding "thanks". But I dont think that is a good idea. Someone please back me up on that lol.
You're right Alex. Luckily, I dont even want her to chase me. Maybe its just her way of trying to be "friends", which I am not about. Or maybe she just sent that as a feeler. I am not biting.If u aint replying like "b1tch i aint fvcking with you", then dont even bother replying at all. Trust us on this one, u will feel a lot better when u realize that she is the one chasing after u now, and u dont give a sh1t.
Don't say one goddamn wordMy ex fiance just texted me "Happy birthday. I hope you have a great day!".
I thought about waiting 5 hours or so and simply responding "thanks". But I dont think that is a good idea. Someone please back me up on that lol.
^^^^ThisDon't say one goddamn word
I have made big strides these past 6 days. My birthday was one revolution around the calendar and I think that was one final nail in this stubborn coffin.^^^^This
Shows you are putting her behind you. That puts YOU in the driving seat my friend.
This said, it is my birthday in a few weeks and I bet I will be asking you guys the same question! Always easier giving out advice that actually doing it don't you think comrades?! ;-)