Dhoulmagus
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Aside from Widows or legit divorces, no
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I can't help but feel bad for people worse off than me, even if it's their fault. It's actually therapeutic because by really appreciating the misfortunate of another you learn to appreciate what you have yourself. I may encounter the biggest, most obnoxious moron on the planet... but more than anything else, above getting frustrated or angry, I'm just thankful to not to be them. It's like having a dream of being in a bad car wreck or something, and then realizing it never happened... thank god that isn't me.Do you feel sorry for single mothers
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
They get on dating sites and get bombarded with attention of dudes only interested in banging them. They take this like they are hot shiit and everyone wants them. Then they play hard ball with the normal guys thinking they are sought after. It's laughable. Rinse repeat.In my experience, single mothers are some of the biggest *****s around. They got their beta bucks and were not happy, popped out a few kids, divorced and now chase alphas or guys that will bang them hard and move on.... Tinder and online dating is full of them. They still think they got it even with kids so thy think they can ho it up without repercussions. I've had single moms tell me to come over when she doesn't have the kid so I can bang her brains out without the kid knowing. I don't feel sorry at all, it is what it is, and i wrap it always.
What about the ones who lost their spouse to death?Since abortion is legal.. all single mothers made the CHOICE to be single mothers.
I think that says it all.
With the exception of the father of the child dying or rape, they are single moms for the exact same reason.... They made a bad choice when it came to choosing someone to father their children.You have to pretend that every single mother is single for exactly the same reason.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I guess the same 'exact reason' applies to single dads then.With the exception of the father of the child dying or rape, they are single moms for the exact same reason.... They made a bad choice when it came to choosing someone to father their children.
But then again, women make choices based on what their emotions tell them. They have children with the wrong men because they felt something for him at some point.
Yes it does, and I've had numerous occasions where I've felt like absolute garbage for choosing a horrible mother for my son. I sometimes feel like I've let him down with my choice because she can be such a piece of 5hit. I should have waited longer to choose someone better.I guess the same 'exact reason' applies to single dads then.
Same here. Except I was 33 when I married, my ex-w had every sign of being a good candidate and we waited almost seven years to have our first kid.Yes it does, and I've had numerous occasions where I've felt like absolute garbage for choosing a horrible mother for my son. I sometimes feel like I've let him down with my choice because she can be such a piece of 5hit. I should have waited longer to choose someone better.
And then pull up next to you at your dwelling and live in the unit below you, even though you work and they don't - all thanks to Section 8 vouchers. They spend the day texting and shopping while showing off their tattoos.I'll give you an example where I don't feel bad for them, shopping cart full of groceries (shrimp, steak, lobster), pay with welfare card, then drive off in a brand new SUV.
That's exactly what's happening to my hometown and it's making the area less safe and school systems decline.And then pull up next to you at your dwelling and live in the unit below you, even though you work and they don't - all thanks to Section 8 vouchers. They spend the day texting and shopping while showing off their tattoos.
Obama is actively moving ghetto moms into affluent suburbs using your tax dollars. That way their kids can rob the richer houses. You see, Liberals feel as though giving people money (that they take from you) makes losers successful. It doesn't. It just makes wealthy slobs - the worst kind.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.