"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is the text message I received what to do now ?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"Hey, I'll pass. Should things change for you and become single, get in touch with me. All the best."
Agree with EyeBRollin. Polite and to the point.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Fvck that. If he wants to get it, then try and get it. It could just be a sh!t test to see if he is going to go for it anyway...if it is, that's the exact opposite of what will actually work...she wants him to show some aggressiveness and dominance not passiveness.
I suppose, but if a girl is telling him she is sleeping with a 6'1 basketball player and they will just be friends if they meet for drinks, I think that means she wants to see how desperate he is. And if she testing him before they even meet face to face, what's she going to do when he wants to make a move?
Also, if what she said could be a test, then almost everything out of a girls mouth could be a test. If she said "Let's meet at my apartment and go straight to sex." It could be a test to see how lonely he is and how long he hasn't had sex.
We can't consider everything a test, would make for a long week.
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What she wants is irrelevant to this situation. What the OP wants is all that is important.
Sounds like another low quality woman looking to upgrade behind her bf back. If she is making plans with you and admitting she already has a boyfriend then this is a low quality woman. I'd say "thanks but Wednesday doesn't work for me. Take care." No counter offer from me then next her.
Remember guys if she will cheat with you she will cheat on you.
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OP is trying to get laid, not fall in love. What's the problem?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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It could be her willing to hook up but not to leave any evidence or save her reputation if someone else reads by writing those lines or it could be her friendzoning him to see if he accepts the role.
It could be her trying to be faithful consciously while desiring to cheat subconsciously, it could be her looking for an ego boost into having a guy going out with her even with such demands.
Personally Im too old and have too much self respect for playing like that, I would go for the eyebrolling policy above, which basically tells her that he is no toy but ready to be sexual if she stops being a cvnt.
I guess I still live up to the old man code. Where if a women is taken, even if she wants it out of respect for my fellow man i don't go there. I was taught that being and respecting one an other, that was integrity. It also taught the women in our generation to not play those games because no guy would put up with it. I'm guessing that old man code doesn't exist anymore?
I guess i am old fashioned. What would your take be if you came home and your lady was ankles high getting it from some strange guy?
Unless you're confident in your ability to escalate there's a pretty high chance nothing will happen on this "date" and your time will be wasted either way. Also if she thinks this is some type of formal plutonic meet up, you're prob screwed no matter what. Need context.
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"Don't expect you to be. I'm just upfront, so if my confidence or directness intimidates you or is more than you can handle, I know before I waste my time. Now that you know the rules of the game, are you going to play, or do you want to take your ball and go home?"
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Too overconfident. Maybe that works, but I would've toned it down a bit. It might sound funny in text between us, but unless her interest is sky high, it'd fall flat. id go with what @bigneil said. Very direct to cut the bs, but still is playful and stern
In all actuality, if you care about what to text back to her, you're trying too hard already.
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It all depends on how she knows him to be. It works well if it fits with how you typically act. I've used it several times
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.