Spot on, a woman worth your time will insist on 50/50, perhaps more.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How do you justify spending your hard-earned cash on a woman?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm not really talking down to dollar and cents. For example, I book the hotel/travel, she takes care of the activities and food. I've had woman complain about gas money when she comes to my place, even when I paid for cooking and activities. I gave her $50 and never contacted her again.
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Money comes and money goes. It's a means to an end. As long as she doesn't break you financially and you have a Brain, you can always make money.
If you don't want to spend, it's your perogative. But do you really want to not spend on a girl and travel with her so you can be $100,000 richer 10 years later? You make one good real estate deal or pick the right stock, you can make the money back in 8 seconds.
We have been brainwashed to believe 'money, money, money, save, save, save, rich, rich, rich.' Unless you are mega rich and running a massive business, you'll regret chasing money. That doesn't mean waste it or spend frivolously, but don't make it your reason for living.
But why do men have to pay? Why arent women expected to pay?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Ya, I only seriously date women who make me money. I would take my girl to business outlings, and as my targets would be off-centered and drooling, I would close them. LOL.
On the subject of spending money: on men, on women; really, who gives a fvck? We have some real penny-pinchers here. If you can't afford a drink without thinking about the money spent, women should be your last priority.
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mrgoodstuff
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With the money she brought him, and it's a small percentage like 5-10%.
Obviously there's nothing wrong with spending money on something you like in a responsible way.
The better question is why do you guys, who have money issues and need to save, spend exorbitant amounts on women?
The answer to this question is also obvious,
1) A lot of people are bad with money
2) Desperation
englishman
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I do it because its expected in N America, like tipping a waitress is here, but isn't in other places.
If I don't go along with it then it makes life hard. So I most the time I do.
If I don't go along with it then it makes life hard. So I most the time I do.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bible_Belt
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Lately my version of paying for dinner is that the girl goes shopping for food, brings it over to my house, we fvck, she cooks, we eat, we fvck again, and then I reimburse her for the groceries before she leaves.