"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Guru Is Back

guru1000

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I missed you guys.

I took a hiatus. Was in a mini-LTR with this former playboy model. Met her in Vegas. And no, I will not throw names out there. Absolutely no substance, but hot as hell. But who cares, right?

She moves in three weeks ago. As Guru is coming of age, we agree on two things:

(a) No marriage;
(b) She will get the gift of my lineage, outside of marriage.

She agrees with this arrangement. Anyway, one week in, she disrespects me, cursing me out under the guise of PMS. I laid the good ol' boundary: "Do not ever speak to me in that manner again, understand? Yes or No?"

She nods her head in acquiesce. Ok, forgotten.

Last week, well what do you know, she does it again. So i say, "This is the second time."

"I'm really sorry," she says. What's a Guru to do?

Sure enough a few days ago, here she goes again, now a third time, in a more disrespectful tone than the prior two.

First, I reflect on my own behavior:

Was I being an azzhole? No.
Did I disrespect her in anyway? No.

I'm a Guru of reason. But not one that's very understanding of insubordination. And so:

"Pack your shvt. Get out," I state pointing to the door.

"Please," she says as her mouth drops to the floor. I exit. She has been calling ever since. hehe.

Hold women accountable for their actions. And if they don't bring their "A" game to the table, they lose YOU.

Anyhow ... how are my boys doing?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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marmel75

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I missed you guys.

I took a hiatus. Was in a mini-LTR with this former playboy model. Met her in Vegas. And no, I will not throw names out there. Absolutely no substance, but hot as hell. But who cares, right?

She moves in three weeks ago. As Guru is coming of age, we agree on two things:

(a) No marriage;
(b) She will get the gift of my lineage, outside of marriage.

She agrees with this arrangement. Anyway, one week in, she disrespects me, cursing me out under the guise of PMS. I laid the good ol' boundary: "Do not ever speak to me in that manner again, understand? Yes or No?"

She nods her head in acquiesce. Ok, forgotten.

Last week, well what do you know, she does it again. So i say, "This is the second time."

"I'm really sorry," she says. What's a Guru to do?

Sure enough a few days ago, here she goes again, now a third time, in a more disrespectful tone than the prior two.

First, I reflect on my own behavior:

Was I being an azzhole? No.
Did I disrespect her in anyway? No.

I'm a Guru of reason. But not one that's very understanding of insubordination. And so:

"Pack your shvt. Get out," I state pointing to the door.

"Please," she says as her mouth drops to the floor. I exit. She has been calling ever since. hehe.

Hold women accountable for their actions. And if they don't bring their "A" game to the table, they lose YOU.

Anyhow ... how are my boys doing?
Pimp of the year! Whats up brotha....good to see you back
 

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Welcome back, Guru.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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And thanks tremendously for the advice on the HB 7-9 thread. Lost a fair bit of weight. The minoxidil and finasteride seem to have thickened out my thatch. Had some lightweight cosmetic work done just had my 50th birthday and most people thought it was my 40th. Had STRs with a Filipino and Malaysian girl so far this year and a couple of randoms. Currently dating this Chinese girl.

http://i651.photobucket.com/albums/uu235/kevine6/Mobile Uploads/IMG_20160414_085335685_zpsg3jowubh.jpg
Dude, you really need to get off that sh!t...they have irreparable side effects that will stay with you for life even after you stop using it...do a quick search on it...all you likely need is magnesium oil/vitamin k2...lots of people's thinning hair is caused by calcium buildup blocking the capillaries that feed the hair follicles...this calcium buildup is also building up along the walls of your arteries as well....atherosclerosis...
 

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Yep.... Dating is supposed to be fun... when it stops being 'fun', you are with the wrong woman. Life is filled with bullsh!t, without going around asking for it.

BTW I dated a Playboy model back in mid 90s. Like you she looked fine but after a couple of months became a b!tchy shrew. She was not interested in making anything long term with a junior Army officer, when there were tons of guys who made as much in a day that I made in a year throwing themselves at her. Not mentioning names, but you can figure out who she was when I say she died of a drug overdose in some millionaires mansion about 15 years ago. Which was odd because when I knew her she was clean and didn't even drink alcohol.
 

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I missed you guys.......Anyhow ... how are my boys doing?
Why would you move a chick in with you so soon? How long were you guys dating/fvcking?

How am I doing? Well, I've been okay, how have you been :)?

I was waiting to meet you in The People's Court like you threatened, but I guess you were too busy "meeting former playboy models in Vegas" :)?
 

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I received many emails and posts. Congrats on your physical achievements gents. You have put the work in and earned it. Much respect for that. And for the guys I missed, feel free to drop me PMs, and I will be here to assist in any way that I can. Be forewarned, I can be brutal. But I will equip you with the truth.

I focus much on the DJ's physicality. One thing I don't mention much is the importance of mindset, the "game." Before I started dating 9s, I would profess and believe I was dating 9s. Before my first mil, I would profess and believe I was making millions. I would BE who I'm not to become who I wanted to be. Do not be shamed by the word "authenticity," as YOU are dynamic, not static. The goal is to progress; thus, tomorrow you are not who you are today. BE tomorrow. Does that make sense to any of you?

When you are pursuing 9s+, she will KNOW who you are. Your subcommunications, your mannerisms, your tone, your confidence. Within a few minutes, you are pegged. Game is not as effective, unless you ARE. And so BE, before you achieve. That's all for now guys. I am down 12 lbs, body fat is up 7%, and I look like crap. Yes, even a Guru can fall off when in a relationship. The next 4 weeks, I am focusing only on me. And then I will be back posting my over-the-top field reports again.

Best,

Guru
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I received many emails and posts. Congrats on your physical achievements gents. You have put the work in and earned it. Much respect for that. And for the guys I missed, feel free to drop me PMs, and I will be here to assist in any way that I can. Be forewarned, I can be brutal. But I will equip you with the truth.

I focus much on the DJ's physicality. One thing I don't mention much is the importance of mindset, the "game." Before I started dating 9s, I would profess and believe I was dating 9s. Before my first mil, I would profess and believe I was making millions. I would BE who I'm not to become who I wanted to be. Do not be shamed by the word "authenticity," as YOU are dynamic, not static. The goal is to progress; thus, tomorrow you are not who you are today. BE tomorrow. Does that make sense to any of you?

When you are pursuing 9s+, she will KNOW who you are. Your subcommunications, your mannerisms, your tone, your confidence. Within a few minutes, you are pegged. Game is not as effective, unless you ARE. And so BE, before you achieve. That's all for now guys. I am down 12 lbs, body fat is up 7%, and I look like crap. Yes, even a Guru can fall off when in a relationship. The next 4 weeks, I am focusing only on me. And then I will be back posting my over-the-top field reports again.

Best,

Guru
Nothing 12 weeks of Tren can't fix....Lol
 

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I focus much on the DJ's physicality. One thing I don't mention much is the importance of mindset, the "game." Before I started dating 9s, I would profess and believe I was dating 9s. Before my first mil, I would profess and believe I was making millions. I would BE who I'm not to become who I wanted to be. Do not be shamed by the word "authenticity," as YOU are dynamic, not static. The goal is to progress; thus, tomorrow you are not who you are today. BE tomorrow. Does that make sense to any of you?
I have some minor quibbles with this, but that doesn't matter. I agree that as long as you aspire to something and are working toward it, you are being authentic by assuming that role.
 

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I missed you guys.

I took a hiatus. Was in a mini-LTR with this former playboy model. Met her in Vegas. And no, I will not throw names out there. Absolutely no substance, but hot as hell. But who cares, right?

She moves in three weeks ago. As Guru is coming of age, we agree on two things:

(a) No marriage;
(b) She will get the gift of my lineage, outside of marriage.

She agrees with this arrangement. Anyway, one week in, she disrespects me, cursing me out under the guise of PMS. I laid the good ol' boundary: "Do not ever speak to me in that manner again, understand? Yes or No?"

She nods her head in acquiesce. Ok, forgotten.

Last week, well what do you know, she does it again. So i say, "This is the second time."

"I'm really sorry," she says. What's a Guru to do?

Sure enough a few days ago, here she goes again, now a third time, in a more disrespectful tone than the prior two.


First, I reflect on my own behavior:

Was I being an azzhole? No.
Did I disrespect her in anyway? No.

I'm a Guru of reason. But not one that's very understanding of insubordination. And so:

"Pack your shvt. Get out," I state pointing to the door.

"Please," she says as her mouth drops to the floor. I exit. She has been calling ever since. hehe.

Hold women accountable for their actions. And if they don't bring their "A" game to the table, they lose YOU.

Anyhow ... how are my boys doing?
.....well speak of the fvcking devil....

And order is restored gentlemen.
 

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welcome back; i've seen you post a lot of good material back in the past. it's nice to have you back brother.
 

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Girl referenced in the original post, called eight times last night, and text messaged, "Please pick up. I need you right now."

Should I refer her to the NoContact Challenge on this site? hehe. Ya, I'm going to hell.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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