GeniuzKhrist
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Ahhhh, I'm glad laughing burns calories
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I had it! I blew it! Can I save it?
- Thread starter Black Sunshine
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Black Sunshine
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It's not a fake disease. It's a relatively new theory that is similar to chronic fatigue but is driven by anxiety/panic depleting the adrenal gland from constant stress causing incredible exhaustion.
If you're not in her vicinity then you're way too invested in this woman. Yeah, you can sometimes rekindle some flames with old lays if you **** em well enough but it helps if you're actually able to see them. Until you're in that position, you're wasting energy on massive what ifs.
If you're not in her vicinity then you're way too invested in this woman. Yeah, you can sometimes rekindle some flames with old lays if you **** em well enough but it helps if you're actually able to see them. Until you're in that position, you're wasting energy on massive what ifs.
Black Sunshine
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The symptoms are not fake but diagnosis is.. American Medical Association, 14,000 Endocrinologists, pharmacists s''''t can it. I'm not saying nothing is not wrong but af is bs....key word "theory" no science to back it up, and the main guy that pushes it is not an MD...
On the other part of your comment, you nailed it.....I have a plan..... starting to see now...
On the other part of your comment, you nailed it.....I have a plan..... starting to see now...
salinechow
Senior Don Juan
In case this is a real post,(because it stinks of the lonewolflegend),Ill try to help.
Unless this woman pursues you, I would completely move on. Date other woman never look back.
Just so we are clear, her pursuing you, would feel like this...The way a man would date a woman. She calls to ask to see you, sets a date and a time, confirms later, shows up, flirts so much that there is no doubt, kino, offers to pay a little, asks if you have further plans that night, and would it be okay if she came over because she missed you, calls the next day after she goes home and thanks you for a nice time. Later, asks when you can do it again. Asks if youll consider seeing her again or give it another shot. Misbehaves 0% and keeps her aliments and woes and concerns to a 5% maximum of the conversation.
Anything less than what I just described and you should be moving on.
Neither one of you sound like you have any frame whatsoever, either individually or with one another.
Even with your brain damaged sounding way of type and speak, there are literally 50 woman in a 5 mile radius, right now, that would f^ck you and enjoy your company. Just got to get out there and find em. So Id turn the flame way way down on this woman unless she shows up in a big way like I described.
Emails and texts and FB messages is not pursuit enough. Wait till you move back to see where this is at. Spin plates and hit the gym in the meantime.
O. And in case I didn't answer your question about what you should do or say or type or text the answer is this. None of the above. You cant rescue bad texts with other texts. Go dark. Radio silence. Unless she does what we discussed when you are back in town. Let her come to you or set sail for new ports of call.
Unless this woman pursues you, I would completely move on. Date other woman never look back.
Just so we are clear, her pursuing you, would feel like this...The way a man would date a woman. She calls to ask to see you, sets a date and a time, confirms later, shows up, flirts so much that there is no doubt, kino, offers to pay a little, asks if you have further plans that night, and would it be okay if she came over because she missed you, calls the next day after she goes home and thanks you for a nice time. Later, asks when you can do it again. Asks if youll consider seeing her again or give it another shot. Misbehaves 0% and keeps her aliments and woes and concerns to a 5% maximum of the conversation.
Anything less than what I just described and you should be moving on.
Neither one of you sound like you have any frame whatsoever, either individually or with one another.
Even with your brain damaged sounding way of type and speak, there are literally 50 woman in a 5 mile radius, right now, that would f^ck you and enjoy your company. Just got to get out there and find em. So Id turn the flame way way down on this woman unless she shows up in a big way like I described.
Emails and texts and FB messages is not pursuit enough. Wait till you move back to see where this is at. Spin plates and hit the gym in the meantime.
O. And in case I didn't answer your question about what you should do or say or type or text the answer is this. None of the above. You cant rescue bad texts with other texts. Go dark. Radio silence. Unless she does what we discussed when you are back in town. Let her come to you or set sail for new ports of call.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
marmel75
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1) You are way too invested.
2) If you believe everything doctors say you will be in for a rude health awakening sooner rather than later...probably after they stick you on 5 or 6 medications that do more to harm you than help you while not addressing any of the actual issues.
3) Find more options.
4) She isn't worth it.
2) If you believe everything doctors say you will be in for a rude health awakening sooner rather than later...probably after they stick you on 5 or 6 medications that do more to harm you than help you while not addressing any of the actual issues.
3) Find more options.
4) She isn't worth it.
Black Sunshine
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The plan is to go back to LA, back to university, have at least 5 chicks in the rotation, let her earn it!
Black Sunshine
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Thanks fellas!
Black Sunshine
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Make her ass justify my love!
MrWood
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::facepalm::
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Black Sunshine
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Oh damn.... loll
I'd recommend in the mean time reading the bible start to finish. Doesn't seem like you have the basic mindset down yet which means any game you try is going to come from weakness and will appear fake.
Hit up the rational male blog too.
Hit up the rational male blog too.
Black Sunshine
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Thanks man!
salinechow
Senior Don Juan
This
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
salinechow
Senior Don Juan
Post some of the things you learn and the connections you make as you learn them. As well as, how they pertain to your situation. Start to give yourself your own advice. Do it aloud either here or in a sperate journal thread. GIve back to the community in this way. Also, it will help us help you. It may even just simply help all. Participate. Good luck.
Black Sunshine
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Gotcha!
Thanks Salinechow! Will do! l am just getting back in the game. One of the things I realize is my confidence is shot after a few years of taking care of my mom, and the aftermath, I forgot about myself... I will make a big time come back.
Thanks Salinechow! Will do! l am just getting back in the game. One of the things I realize is my confidence is shot after a few years of taking care of my mom, and the aftermath, I forgot about myself... I will make a big time come back.
hockeyfreak79
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Hi fellas! I'm new but have been reading this and it has ben eye-opening... Anyway... I recently got back in touch with a girl I wanted to marry.
I stopped reading right about here^^^
I stopped reading right about here^^^
Black Sunshine
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Black Sunshine
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Hockeyfreak... what is your team... I like kings and flyers
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.