"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Be a Man!

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This is really great!

I wish I could buy you a beer sometime-or whatever you drink - and just hang out with you. this would be truely great.

but I know you are not real - I am not going to explain this further so just figure it out yourself ;) -, therefore in order to honer your essay I will keep my eyes open for someone who is a MAN and by him a beer.

I hope our path will cross in the future.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Great post. Pook, you have a gift of being able to articulate complex motives for why women do what they do. Any time I discover a problem in life, the answer is to look within, and frame the situation differently. As the old saying goes: Attitude determines you altitude. Same goes for women.

However, there is one point that I would disagree with you on... I don't necessarily agree with your point about cooking. I think ( and I'd like to know what ya'll think) that if you're a great cook, and you enjoy cooking for others. Cook for someone and if they hold it against you they can hit the ****ing road. I don't a woman who will disrespect me for doing something for them, as if the mere fact that I know how to prepare a meal like a proper man is somehow an elaborate plan to get in their pants. But that's just me. I'm sure it is all about how you present the idea to them. Either way, the best way to impress a woman is to lead a group, i.e. cook for a mutual group of friends and take charge while she sits and watches you do your thing.
 

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i do everything that pook said, i have better life but i got no girls. i don't know why, i said what i want, do what i want call her dork, touch her, ok.. she flirt with me, but in the end, she don't want to be my girl. i don't know what happen (i have passion after all, my guitar skill is very great! and yes, i do the part time job everyday with no day off. And why i got nothing, some ugly girl like me but no hot girls love me. some one please help
 

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are you fit? get something else going on. Maybe they are just not into your style of music. change your hair style and your mode of dress. got any female friends? hang around with them, so other women know that you're safe to be around women
 

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I have a ton of female friends, I always play guitar for them to sing. They like me and think I am a great person because I can do everything (I'm improving myself every aspects of my life) I'm not blaming pook, i just wonder why i got everything in my life except girls?:( i always flirt with hot girls, they smile to me when we met, sometime want to hug me! But when i asked her out, they often rejected me or act as themselves busy every time.

(P.S. sorry for my pretty bad English.)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I have a ton of female friends, I always play guitar for them to sing. They like me and think I am a great person because I can do everything (I'm improving myself every aspects of my life) I'm not blaming pook, i just wonder why i got everything in my life except girls?:( i always flirt with hot girls, they smile to me when we met, sometime want to hug me! But when i asked her out, they often rejected me or act as themselves busy every time.

(P.S. sorry for my pretty bad English.)
Don't reach out to them then, reach out to them. Screw with girls who are currently responsive to you. If you are not having sex, get sex somehow, it's very important.
 

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Don't reach out to them then, reach out to them. Screw with girls who are currently responsive to you. If you are not having sex, get sex somehow, it's very important.
Should read "Don't reach out to them, let them reach out to you"... That's the gyst of it. Once you reach out and thirst after these babes like most guys you are lost. You need them to thirst for you. Build your physique to an uncommonly good one, that shouldn't hurt, and dressing good and smelling good too.
 

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dunno, bro, I have always just "fell into " the women I have scored with. Not that many, 13 in 4 decades. I was (sort of) tied to one for 30 years. :) She was worthless, tho
 

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Should read "Don't reach out to them, let them reach out to you"... That's the gyst of it. Once you reach out and thirst after these babes like most guys you are lost. You need them to thirst for you. Build your physique to an uncommonly good one, that shouldn't hurt, and dressing good and smelling good too.
ok, let do this! Thank for your advice.

dunno, bro, I have always just "fell into " the women I have scored with. Not that many, 13 in 4 decades. I was (sort of) tied to one for 30 years. :) She was worthless, tho
Maybe i'm facing the problem you've said. I just touch, smile, listen to them. no teasing, no screw, no hot&cool. I may have scored them unconsciously.:confused: thank you! I love you guys!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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reading the DJB in new year of 2022. I personally want to thank everyone who's contributed. Reading these threads and field reports are like traveling back in time. Especially day gaming where cellphones didnt exist. im blown away. Goes to show how much of an advantage we men have now adays if we work on ourselves because 90% of men today are beta simps, it has never been easier to be a MAN. Thank you and godspeed!
 
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