Huffman
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This is exactly what I want to prevent from happening. I'm not satisfied with "it is what it is". We can do it!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Being interested, how? I don't care about anyone!
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
If you're not happy you should look to change things, but at the same time there's a possibility you're barking up the wrong tree. No one is always happy, and the grass always seems greener on the other side. You might be trying to shove a square peg into a triangular hole. Maybe, maybe not. Just food for thought.
CuddleJunkie
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Well, Nietzsche was a complex guy, with a complex system of ideas, so to understand any of his aphorisms you need a more or less deep knowledge of the rest. That is why some aphorisms, taken by themselves, have "bumps". Damn, he even makes inside jokes from time to time, referencing to other books he wrote, or to old ideas he had, so a lot of times it seems that he's contradicting itself.
A great guy he was, and his aphorisms about women are precious. He didn't marry, used the pros lol.
Not gonna lie I don't understand everything he's trying to say. Partly because the writing style is unconventional and awkward. I would argue it's actually poorly written by today's standards. But the bumps I'm referring as a whole have to do with what I see as a gross oversimplification of the issue. His conclusions are mostly exaggerated guesswork also. I feel like his entire argument is one big straw man fallacy.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SuckItUp
Senior Don Juan
Huffman, It's easy to fall into the trap of think others are beneath you, but it's a false dichotomy because you are affixing a value system that places you higher on your system than others and they don't know the system criteria.
Best bet is to approach social situations with the intent of having fun or being outrageous or playing a role. You're not being fake but rather redressing social convention. It's a good way to bypass the same terrible conversations about people telling you how their job is important or how they ran a marathon, or dug water wells in some exotic water deprived 3rd world nation.
Best bet is to approach social situations with the intent of having fun or being outrageous or playing a role. You're not being fake but rather redressing social convention. It's a good way to bypass the same terrible conversations about people telling you how their job is important or how they ran a marathon, or dug water wells in some exotic water deprived 3rd world nation.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
I was there once!
But, you need to realize... it's a two way street. Being exciting and fun is work! Most people are lazy! If you're bored, something is wrong.
I use small talk as a springboard for all kinds of jokes and banter. I'm constantly surrounded by boring people. They like me because I'm "fun" to talk to.
Challenge: Be the joy in boring peoples' boring lives.
But, you need to realize... it's a two way street. Being exciting and fun is work! Most people are lazy! If you're bored, something is wrong.
I use small talk as a springboard for all kinds of jokes and banter. I'm constantly surrounded by boring people. They like me because I'm "fun" to talk to.
Challenge: Be the joy in boring peoples' boring lives.