"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Only speak to those that give you the respect you desire.

parkthebus

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So I've made an observation recently since I've been going to the pub a lot (I know terrible habit). It's quite a big place so I've been meeting a lot of new people. I'm only 19 and so obviously a lot of these guys are older than me and of course as you get with the stereotype of middle age men that drink too much, they judge each other on bravado rather than social subtlety and intelligence. I'm not saying I don't like a laugh and to take the piss a bit but some people really can't have an intellectual conversation that requires back and forth contributions. I don't mean to sound high and mighty; I like to give my view as well as listening to opposing views, just like most of you here on sosauve. So since meeting these people I've noticed that I enjoy myself a lot more when they a) they respect me and b)we're on the same intellectual wave length. I think a lot if people, myself included, have a habbit of talking to chilling with people we don't really like or respect and they usually feel the same about us. From a game point of view, I noticed a woman that is often there will be much more attentive to me when I'm with my friends rather than hers who I don't really talk to much. As soon as I join their group she loses interest because I can't dominate a social setting that I have no interest in dominating. The take home point is, only speak to those who show you the respect and attention you feel worthy of.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yewki

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The take home point is, only speak to those who show you the respect and attention you feel worthy of.
I would argue the take away is talk to whoever you want, and if some chick loses interest because you don't dominate her social clique then it's her loss
 

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It's another way to "not" waste your time.
 
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