You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Never hang out with a woman that approaches you. If she liked you she would be too nervous to approach
Projection.
Excellent Post.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This. Or "K." It's my snarky fvck you to a girl to make minimal effort, only enough to tap one or two letters, and not punctuate. That's all the attention that bad behavior will get from me. Typically I agree and amplify just in case what I'm confronted with is a sh!t test, but here any amplification would be rewarding bad behavior with attention.
Negative I approach hb's on the daily.
Never been a fan of the "k" response. Shows you're trying too hard not to seem upset.
The girl can take any response as any way she feels. She can think you're butthurt when you say anything from "K" to going ghost. What ever happened to just dropping a girl who flakes? Flakes mean low interest. She wouldn't flake on someone she really likes and wants, barring a serious emergency. You guys wouldn't either.
Not sure what you're getting at. Are you suggesting it doesn't matter how you present yourself after getting flaked on?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Why would you waste time responding with anything, if you didn't care about her reaction and were moving on?
