Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What would you tell your past you and future you?

deltabeta

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Hi guys,

I hope everyone's doing alright. If you had one advice to give your past self and future self, what would that be?

For me:

Past: Turn off the TV, don't listen to all that bull**** thats being said. The only way to learn is to make mistakes and be ruthless. It'll be hard but you'll grow.

Future: Dear future me, do not turn into a bitter ******* and read this letter before killing yourself. I can't promise that things will work out, but I'm sure that with all these hard times, you'd become the man you wanted to be. Just hang on.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Tomo

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Swallow your ego, stop procrastinating and put in the hard yards. Most importantly, believe in yourself.
 

deltabeta

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Swallow your ego, stop procrastinating and put in the hard yards. Most importantly, believe in yourself.
Is this for past or future self? Because I think there's a difference in what you'd tell the two, keeping the present as your reference point.
 

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Past: Your best memories will be the adventurous time with your friends and yourself. There is no need for a girlfriend. Stop wasting your time with them. Most of them don't bring anything up except problems. Don't let anyone waste your time. Life has to be endured, so stop crying and being shy.

Future: Don't forget to never stop improving, every single day of your life. Move forward every day, even if it's only one inch. That's what build a man, and you are one so build yourself. And that to the end of your life.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tomo

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Is this for past or future self? Because I think there's a difference in what you'd tell the two, keeping the present as your reference point.
Both my friend, I seem to have a knack to go off on a tangent until I pull myself back onto the straight and narrow and reset all over.
 

beforeimgone

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Hi guys,

I hope everyone's doing alright. If you had one advice to give your past self and future self, what would that be?

For me:

Past: Turn off the TV, don't listen to all that bull**** thats being said. The only way to learn is to make mistakes and be ruthless. It'll be hard but you'll grow.

Future: Dear future me, do not turn into a bitter ******* and read this letter before killing yourself. I can't promise that things will work out, but I'm sure that with all these hard times, you'd become the man you wanted to be. Just hang on.

sunk cost theory and helper's high are your friends
 

SamTheHobit

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Past self: Nothing really matter and no one really care.

Future self: Nothing really matters and no one really care.
 

Desdinova

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Past self: You're on the right path, just don't get married anytime soon.
Future self: You've done well, ol' boy!*

* I'd tell myself that because nobody else is going to do it.
 

deltabeta

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Past self: Nothing really matter and no one really care.

Future self: Nothing really matters and no one really care.
Are you influenced by existentialism?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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deltabeta

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Past self: You're on the right path, just don't get married anytime soon.
Future self: You've done well, ol' boy!*

* I'd tell myself that because nobody else is going to do it.
Most of the times you gotta pat yourself on the back.
 

MOTU

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Past self: stop trying to please women. Focus on self improvement.

Future self: hope you are enjoying all that money I saved for you. Use it for adventures, not stuff.
 
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