"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I feel very nervous by tall, muscular men (I'm a girl)

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I don't understand why. People say this happens when a girl has low self esteem. But I feel very comfortable about myself; I don't have any self-esteem issues. If a muscular guy and I am in the same room, I feel like I have to get out fast (especially if he's outgoing)! I don't understand how girls have the guts to sleep with them...LOL!

My question is to muscular guys: Have noticed girls acting like this? Do most girls act awkward by you?
It's like an inexperienced guy being around a "hot chick", his brain evaluates their relative SMV's and hit confidence can't handle the disparity.
 

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I dont wanna join the bitter grumpy guys team but the stuff we're talking about here really belongs to this forum?

A girl coming here asking for suggestions or venting about how she feels toward big guys would be like one of us joining a girly forum to inform he likes to do ass to mouth with college girls.

Its not my intention to be rude in giving such sexually loaded picture, but her feelings belong to this forum as much as our dirty toughts belong there.

Whats gonna be the next step? a gay guy asking tips on how to take advantage of drunk guys which didnt manage to get a girl that night but are still horny and drunk?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Even if this is a troll, very tall or muscular men generally need to ease this fear in girls or they will end up wondering why they aren't getting as much tail as they should be getting.

I can totally understand why it causes female anxiety, but guys should remember that getting muscular is WAY more of a benefit than a detriment. Don't go too hard-ass, but go right up to the edge and put on just enough gentle to relax girls. If you look like a walking rape-machine and act like it too, you may cause some fear lol
 

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Even if this is a troll, very tall or muscular men generally need to ease this fear in girls or they will end up wondering why they aren't getting as much tail as they should be getting.

I can totally understand why it causes female anxiety, but guys should remember that getting muscular is WAY more of a benefit than a detriment. Don't go too hard-ass, but go right up to the edge and put on just enough gentle to relax girls. If you look like a walking rape-machine and act like it too, you may cause some fear lol
This man is right, you do have to make them more comfortable around you.
 

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Of course man. Just image a huge guy sitting totally up straight at the table. On a typical restaurant table the guy next to him doesn't even have enough space (because tables are always frickin small).

That is unnerving and slightly intimidating at first. But after like 20 sec his charm takes all of that away, and instead he's not only attractive but also massively respected.

Think Anthony Robbins! If you see this guy pacing around a stage - in a suit that makes him look even bigger - it's intimidating! But he's super charming as well.
 
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