Hi... just this afternoon my gf told me that she need a space. we've been together for 6 months and actually for the first 3 months everything goes well. Recently she have to go to other country because she found a new job there. But still we have very good communication. We often had video calls so we can see each other face. For me I don't feel like I did something bad or like being too possessive or protective, all I asked is more like texting a view times in a day. But now she doesn't like it. not anymore. What should I do? It's kinda shocking to me to be honest and i don't want to break up with her Since I love her so much. Thank you.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She asked for a space
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Tictac
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So give her space. And don't interfere with it until she crosses all of it to get back to you.
If she never reaches out, you know everything you need to know. If she does reach out, maybe you'll let her have a chance with you. But I hope that you don't.
If she never reaches out, you know everything you need to know. If she does reach out, maybe you'll let her have a chance with you. But I hope that you don't.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
We'll that exactly what I thought. She found another person. or maybe... just maybe she's really need a space. In two weeks I'll be seeing her and hopefully everything would be better. To be honest I don't want to loose her.
Sprayarc
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There is another guy she's attracted to/interested in. That's the only reason she'd ask for space. She won't tell you this though because she wants to keep you around as emotional support/ it doesn't work out with him.
I highly doubt she really needs space lol. She's either found someone else or has her sights on someone else. She may want to just keep you as a back up. Don't be suprised if she doesn't want to see you. You don't want to loose her cause you are thinking in scarcity and are experiencing oneitis. Your the prize, she shouldnt want to lose you. There are millions of other women in this world. Forget this woman and get some new women. Read the DJ Bible.
grayclif
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^^^^^^This^^^^^^
^^^^^^^And not this^^^^^^^
Give her her space. Go the gym or fitness park and hit up a few hotties from your past and ask them out. Read the DJ Bible.
When she returns home wait for her to contact you. Do not initiate contact. You will know for sure soon enough.
CuddleJunkie
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mate, I had the same situation as you, but with a 5 years old relationship.
1. She wants some new ****
2. She has some new ****
It was 2 in my case, and I never even thought about it being a possibility. You say you are going to see her in 2 weeks, I was seeing her and I had a new meeting in 20 days when I found about the other guy.
Eject.
1. She wants some new ****
2. She has some new ****
It was 2 in my case, and I never even thought about it being a possibility. You say you are going to see her in 2 weeks, I was seeing her and I had a new meeting in 20 days when I found about the other guy.
Eject.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Many of them will make a habit of keeping you for emotional support trying to branch grab for guys who are more selfish and vain and won't give it. Thus it fails eventually and she's back, only to try it again with a guy of the same "type"...
Manage your support of various kinds, and it will manage her emotional responses.
Sprayarc
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Whenever something a woman says or does doesn't make sense, it's going to be bad news.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Don't give her space. She has all the space she can get as its long distance. Just dump her because she will dump you soon.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
The only way to keep her is to break up with her. That is the only way she will 're-evaluate" who you are. Otherwise, she's perfectly willing to risk losing you, and in fact, is planning on it
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
grayclif
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I'm afraid but sodbuster nailed it. Preempt thecbreakup or otherwise suffer the consequences.
glass half full
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tell her she is right, you feel that maybe you both need some space. Then play away!
This one is done, even if she comes back later. Spin those plates with no regrets...better to find out now as later. She did you a favor, now do yourself a few.
This one is done, even if she comes back later. Spin those plates with no regrets...better to find out now as later. She did you a favor, now do yourself a few.
Parts in bold are why she lost interest in you. You drove her away with your neediness.
Texting and communication is the girl's job, not yours. And always be willing to walk away. As soon as you "need" her, game over. You lost your frame. You should not need any girl to be happy, regardless of how nice or pretty she is.
speed dawg
Master Don Juan
Just leave it alone. If you try to break up with her, you'll still look bad. Just face it, it's over. She's probably bouncing on some other guys c*ck as we speak.
Trust me, there's nothing else you can do here except cease contact with her.
Trust me, there's nothing else you can do here except cease contact with her.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.