Hi... just this afternoon my gf told me that she need a space. we've been together for 6 months and actually for the first 3 months everything goes well. Recently she have to go to other country because she found a new job there. But still we have very good communication. We often had video calls so we can see each other face. For me I don't feel like I did something bad or like being too possessive or protective, all I asked is more like texting a view times in a day. But now she doesn't like it. not anymore. What should I do? It's kinda shocking to me to be honest and i don't want to break up with her Since I love her so much. Thank you.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She asked for a space
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tictac
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So give her space. And don't interfere with it until she crosses all of it to get back to you.
If she never reaches out, you know everything you need to know. If she does reach out, maybe you'll let her have a chance with you. But I hope that you don't.
If she never reaches out, you know everything you need to know. If she does reach out, maybe you'll let her have a chance with you. But I hope that you don't.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
We'll that exactly what I thought. She found another person. or maybe... just maybe she's really need a space. In two weeks I'll be seeing her and hopefully everything would be better. To be honest I don't want to loose her.
Sprayarc
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There is another guy she's attracted to/interested in. That's the only reason she'd ask for space. She won't tell you this though because she wants to keep you around as emotional support/ it doesn't work out with him.
I highly doubt she really needs space lol. She's either found someone else or has her sights on someone else. She may want to just keep you as a back up. Don't be suprised if she doesn't want to see you. You don't want to loose her cause you are thinking in scarcity and are experiencing oneitis. Your the prize, she shouldnt want to lose you. There are millions of other women in this world. Forget this woman and get some new women. Read the DJ Bible.
grayclif
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^^^^^^This^^^^^^
^^^^^^^And not this^^^^^^^
Give her her space. Go the gym or fitness park and hit up a few hotties from your past and ask them out. Read the DJ Bible.
When she returns home wait for her to contact you. Do not initiate contact. You will know for sure soon enough.
CuddleJunkie
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mate, I had the same situation as you, but with a 5 years old relationship.
1. She wants some new ****
2. She has some new ****
It was 2 in my case, and I never even thought about it being a possibility. You say you are going to see her in 2 weeks, I was seeing her and I had a new meeting in 20 days when I found about the other guy.
Eject.
1. She wants some new ****
2. She has some new ****
It was 2 in my case, and I never even thought about it being a possibility. You say you are going to see her in 2 weeks, I was seeing her and I had a new meeting in 20 days when I found about the other guy.
Eject.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
mrgoodstuff
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Many of them will make a habit of keeping you for emotional support trying to branch grab for guys who are more selfish and vain and won't give it. Thus it fails eventually and she's back, only to try it again with a guy of the same "type"...
Manage your support of various kinds, and it will manage her emotional responses.
Sprayarc
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Whenever something a woman says or does doesn't make sense, it's going to be bad news.
PrettyBoyAJ
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Don't give her space. She has all the space she can get as its long distance. Just dump her because she will dump you soon.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
The only way to keep her is to break up with her. That is the only way she will 're-evaluate" who you are. Otherwise, she's perfectly willing to risk losing you, and in fact, is planning on it
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
grayclif
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I'm afraid but sodbuster nailed it. Preempt thecbreakup or otherwise suffer the consequences.
glass half full
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tell her she is right, you feel that maybe you both need some space. Then play away!
This one is done, even if she comes back later. Spin those plates with no regrets...better to find out now as later. She did you a favor, now do yourself a few.
This one is done, even if she comes back later. Spin those plates with no regrets...better to find out now as later. She did you a favor, now do yourself a few.
Parts in bold are why she lost interest in you. You drove her away with your neediness.
Texting and communication is the girl's job, not yours. And always be willing to walk away. As soon as you "need" her, game over. You lost your frame. You should not need any girl to be happy, regardless of how nice or pretty she is.
speed dawg
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Just leave it alone. If you try to break up with her, you'll still look bad. Just face it, it's over. She's probably bouncing on some other guys c*ck as we speak.
Trust me, there's nothing else you can do here except cease contact with her.
Trust me, there's nothing else you can do here except cease contact with her.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.