"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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When A Woman Shows up Late and/or Sleepy

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How would you handle a woman who show up to a date late and sleepy?

My friend recently went on a second date with a woman and she showed up ~20 minutes late, sleepy, complaining about her feet hurting because she wore a costume to work with heels. After the date she texted him apologizing and he responded with some pretty ass-kissy responses. "It's about quality not quantity". "If you're this much fun when you're tired and it'll be even more fun when you're rested". "I definitely want to see you again".

Now I'm not saying someone necessarily deserves to be nexted for having one bad day, but I can't say that I've ever showed up to a date late once, and definitely not sleepy or complaining about being sore. Showing up late for a first or second date, or a job interview, a plane flight, or even just a movie is just not something (quality) people do when they're excited about something, especially when you know you want to make a good first impression, and if they do they make sure to apologize and make up for it. I told him he ****ed up with his response to her bad behavior, but he insists everything is fine because she said that "he continues to surprise her" and that "she will let him know when she's free soon".

I'm not really sure what my response would be in that situation, but I definitely would not excuse the behavior. How would you guys respond in that kind of situation? What do you think of my friend's response?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dustmuffin

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Women expect to be cut slack. But don't return the favor. If she texted that she would be late then that is ok. The after date text apologizing would have been met with no reply.
 

marmel75

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Your friend is pretty lame with those replies...
 

El Payaso

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It was good that she didn't flake and actually tried to make it but your friend's responses were dreadful.

A$$ kissing, needy, beta and screams of someone who will let her walk all over him.
 

RangerMIke

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What he should have said was, "Well if you were tired we could have gone to bed, after a little 'exercise', you would have gotten a good sleep."
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Maximus Rex

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How would you handle a woman who show up to a date late and sleepy?
Like at most jobs ole Rex will give you a fifteen minute grace period, after that I'm out.
 

Yewki

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When she suddenly starts ignoring him and goes cold he won't know why, because he played it safe and didn't do one single "bad" thing... instead what he will have done is a series of mediocre and weak interactions that kept her dry as the Sahara. Oh well, maybe someday he'll learn.
 

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I would probably next her. A woman that you want to see more should be a woman with a high interest level. Showing up twenty minutes late and tired is a sure sign of low IL....NEXT!!
 
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