Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well, if you're at work and you're using wifi to send her that message, why would you suddenly be unable to use wifi and be forced to use text? Makes no sense to me and I think it wouldn't make any sense to the girl either.Damage360 said:It's like fishing with dynamite. Not using it is a huge mistake. Use the "I have to take this to text I'm at work" line after a few messages.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ha, yeah, agreed.Die Hard said:Well, if you're at work and you're using wifi to send her that message, why would you suddenly be unable to use wifi and be forced to use text? Makes no sense to me and I think it wouldn't make any sense to the girl either.
Explain, please?
In all honesty though, i've only gotten a couple bites there that didn't amount to anything...thelastmanonearth said:Nope, it's a blind dating app and I'm pretty sure 80% of the profiles are dead, it's almost as bad as howaboutwe.com app and that at least has a profile.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If i was living in Miami i will be spinning HB8/9/10 left and right but i will be there soon!SgtSplacker said:In the Miami area....
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I certainly would not recommend online dating to the exclusion of anything else. TBH I only use dating sites when i'm at work and can't do anything else, just like I am right now. What kind of fool will pass on a social gathering to stay home alone on POF? What a miserable existence!om1xr said:If i was living in Miami i will be spinning HB8/9/10 left and right but i will be there soon!
as for online dating sites and apps it's not my thing because social circles/gatherings and events are more rich with quality and hot girls but to each his own!
OP good luck with that!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.