jglide123
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What have you guys found to be the best places/situations to get ONS? We all know that vacation spots (beaches, Vegas, cruises, etc.) and weddings are great, but where are some other places that swing the odds in your favor?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
nwgforlife
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Funerals
old_skoolr
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good onenwgforlife said:
Look at one night stands Q&A , but basically most chances to land ons are: bars, clubs, vacations (beach parties etc), online...
Some guys who are talented can land ONS almost anywhere, they know how to pick women who is also seeking for that kind of relationship
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
jglide123
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I guess it depends on where you vacation. Places like Vegas, the beach, and singles cruises (from what I hear) are good places to land ONS. Anywhere where it becomes socially acceptable to let loose and be wild and crazy are good spots....evan12 said:
Peaks&Valleys
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^^^yes, cruises. The first cruise I went on the ratio of single women to single guys was about 20 to 1. Not sure if also those girls were actually "single" but, either way, they were acting like it. If you can dance all the better. If I had the time, I'd go on a cruise once a month.
spiegel549
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I worked on a popular cruise line running the entertainment for 4 years. I got laid 3 times a week by a different female...and that was considered a slow week.Peaks&Valleys said:
Obviously you aren't going to go on a cruise to often but I find that house parties are by far the best personally. Find some friends of friends that throw house parties a lot. Girls are SO easy to approach there.
Bars, clubs, lounges etc are great places to but it is more work to bring them home.
-Spiegel
Stort_Brød
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evan12 said:
just remember there is always the ( legal ) rebellious daughter being dragged along for the family holiday. they will be off on their own shopping or down the beach, pretty much anywhere that her family isn't.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Exactly, nicely said: "rebellious daughter"
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underrated post.
Haha I wasted a few years dating arts chicks. And when I say wasted I mean you could screen all day long seven days a week and you wouldn't find a decent one. Sex was never a problem chicks channeling Demons always love wild vicious sex. My friend was way smarter than me at the time used to call them issues chicks
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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If sex is all you want, you can keep it simple by going to a dive bar on Friday or Saturday night. The standards aren't spectacular but you'll find the odd rough diamond here and there. Additionally, the standard of competition is so low that if you have anything about you, you'll stick out like a sore thumb.
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Anti-trump protests it is then!
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This reminds of a forgotten movie "All of Me" where a middle aged man said that every time he hears of someone dying he gets a hard-on because of his success with the widows.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.