jglide123
Don Juan
What have you guys found to be the best places/situations to get ONS? We all know that vacation spots (beaches, Vegas, cruises, etc.) and weddings are great, but where are some other places that swing the odds in your favor?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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every time I go vacation I see all couples and families , I never saw single or two ladies alone . do I am going to wrong places ?jglide123 said:What have you guys found to be the best places/situations to get ONS? We all know that vacation spots (beaches, Vegas, cruises, etc.) and weddings are great, but where are some other places that swing the odds in your favor?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I guess it depends on where you vacation. Places like Vegas, the beach, and singles cruises (from what I hear) are good places to land ONS. Anywhere where it becomes socially acceptable to let loose and be wild and crazy are good spots....evan12 said:every time I go vacation I see all couples and families , I never saw single or two ladies alone . do I am going to wrong places ?
I worked on a popular cruise line running the entertainment for 4 years. I got laid 3 times a week by a different female...and that was considered a slow week.Peaks&Valleys said:^^^yes, cruises. The first cruise I went on the ratio of single women to single guys was about 20 to 1. Not sure if also those girls were actually "single" but, either way, they were acting like it. If you can dance all the better. If I had the time, I'd go on a cruise once a month.
evan12 said:every time I go vacation I see all couples and families , I never saw single or two ladies alone . do I am going to wrong places ?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Exactly, nicely said: "rebellious daughter"just remember there is always the ( legal ) rebellious daughter being dragged along for the family holiday. they will be off on their own shopping or down the beach, pretty much anywhere that her family isn't.
My vote goes to college townsWhat level of quality?
College towns and senior citizen communities.
underrated post.Any places where women with issues meet and break bread.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Anti-trump protests it is then!Any places where women with issues meet and break bread.
This reminds of a forgotten movie "All of Me" where a middle aged man said that every time he hears of someone dying he gets a hard-on because of his success with the widows.Funerals
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.