"We have to talk. I'm moving out."

[Married Buried]

She was showing quite a bit. I felt the baby kick.

Damn. Now you can't hit it raw and give the baby a head poke.

 

[BeDJ]

This thread is like finding your childhood superhero doing gay porn.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I shouldn't laugh at this.

 

[Paintballguy]

BB seems to like torturing himself.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Trying to figure out how this could possibly apply to me and not you...

I remember you had a thread about you almost this bad back in the day.

Almost THIS bad? Miscarriages, juggling BPD women, psycho ex con boyfriends and the possibility of STDs? It might have been a different bad, but this is a complete mess. I wanted to change my behavior and see changes in my GF's. I didn't want to just settle on the fact that "oh, it's just the way she is. Let's get into more stupid sh!t and see what happens. I think Bible knows there's an issue, but he's letting it define who he is as a man. I think he feels that this is all he knows, and therefore deserves things like this.

Read the update on my situation: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2065597#post2065597

 

[lifeislearning]

Ok gents; lets stop the d!ck measuring contests, calling each other out, and petty insults. PM that crap for all our sakes.

BB, wow buddy. If you were a friend of mine all I would say is: watch out for yourself. Things can get dangerous for you in every sense of the word. Physically, mentally, socially, financially, you name it. Sounds to me like you're still hurting from the initial break, and now you're trying to figure it all out, albeit in a way few of us would advocate. Is it unusual or shameful to feel like this? No. I've been there in my own way, we all have; that's how we learn. Just be careful.

I'm wondering if you foresee any problems that might arise from choosing a path with either of these women. You've mentioned some past issues with both of them. True all options have risks, including forgoing both ladies and looking for the "perfect 24 yr old." What makes the risk worth taking, knowing that these problems may come back?

 

[guru1000]

When you lack convictions, you chase all pleasures. Nevertheless ...

To reach your potential, sometimes you need to hit rock bottom first. BB, right here, right now--a place, a time--you can grow the most.

Pay attention to the lessons.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I think yours had drugs and S+M porno shoots involved if I remember haha. It helped me get over my HPD ex for what it's worth.

Ah yes...that was a mess. God forbid I get into another relationship I would have to be a complete dumba$$ to go through something like that again. Growing has helped me see that it wouldn't be worth it.

 

[Married Buried]

Ah yes...that was a mess. God forbid I get into another relationship I would have to be a complete dumba$$ to go through something like that again. Growing has helped me see that it wouldn't be worth it.

You are with a different b!tch now?

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I've been with the same girl for 3 years. The first year and a half was rough because of habits, not understanding each other, etc. There was more there to make me want to put the effort forth to make it work. She felt the same way and we did what we could to make the relationship better.

What I'm saying is me and here were both fixer uppers, but neither one of us would go through that again. We're too old for that sh!t now. lol

 

[Married Buried]

I've been with the same girl for 3 years. The first year and a half was rough because of habits, not understanding each other, etc. There was more there to make me want to put the effort forth to make it work. She felt the same way and we did what we could to make the relationship better.

What I'm saying is me and here were both fixer uppers, but neither one of us would go through that again. We're too old for that sh!t now. lol

Fine, as long as you are 100 percent positive she is not doing sh!t behing your back, like these crazy American b!tches are well known for.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Fine, as long as you are 100 percent positive she is not doing sh!t behing your back, like these crazy American b!tches are well known for.

Posting on this forum for so many years, it would be next to impossible not to see the signs.

 

[sodbuster]

I spent some time reading the last few pages. More money doesn't make you happy? I'm happy to be able to pay my mortgage, buy myself furniture,drive a decent vehicle, and not excessively worry about paying my bills.

There is a point of decreasing marginal utility.... after 100k or so. Does 2 vehicles make you happier? yes... a car for driving and a pickup for hunting. Would a THIRD do much for me? meh, not so much. Would a 5000sq ft house make me happier than 2500? not really. You don't seem to be at that level. If You were, maybe GF moving out and taking all the furniture wouldn't be the blow it seemed to be.

 

[Married Buried]

Posting on this forum for so many years, it would be next to impossible not to see the signs.

Well I posted here since 1999, and I still got blindsided by a b!tch sucking **** behind my back. I'm just saying, you never know.

 

[Bible_Belt]

More money doesn't make you happy?

I have made the equivalent of over $100k/yr. Honestly, it was not for very long, and I just got lucky with a few things. But the money just sat there. I live in a part of the country where most people are poor. Even when I had the money to do expensive things, none of my friends could afford to join me. The money was more alienating than anything else. People see you with shiny things, and they start to be jealous and resentful, even if they never admit it. I bought a fast car, a fast motorcycle, martial arts lessons and a law degree. Then I got bored. Lately, my interest is building greenhouses and living the quiet life of a farmer. My idea of wealth is being able to do what you want to do. I think I could go back to the stock market and make a million bucks, but the money and stress would consume my life, and I would not feel very wealthy.

There was a study done recently about the amount of money required to meet one's needs and the point at which more money did not bring more happiness. They only gave one number, though, $50K/yr, and that obviously would have to be adjusted a lot for different areas of the country. NYC is probably double that number; where I live is closer to half. My gf, whom this thread is about and who is also asleep in my bed right now, will make $100k/yr within three years. That is plenty of money for two people to be happy.

 

[Married Buried]

Posting on this forum for so many years, it would be next to impossible not to see the signs.

This doesn't sound like someone who is 100 percent sure now does it?

Eliminate all doubt and hire a private investigator to follow her around for a week or two. Why the hell not? I would do it in a heartbeat before committing to a western woman.

I can say 100 percent WITHOUT A DOUBT my woman is faithful. No need to hire a PI, but if I had one tiny shred of doubt I would.

As for "seeing the signs?" My ass. They are hollywood actors, and hide the signs.

See the above post as an example.

 

[Zarky]

I can say 100 percent WITHOUT A DOUBT my woman is faithful.

That's fantastic, I'm not 100% WITHOUT A DOUBT sure of anything.

 

[Married Buried]

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[ThunderMaverick]

This doesn't sound like someone who is 100 percent sure now does it?

Eliminate all doubt and hire a private investigator to follow her around for a week or two. Why the hell not? I would do it in a heartbeat before committing to a western woman.

I can say 100 percent WITHOUT A DOUBT my woman is faithful. No need to hire a PI, but if I had one tiny shred of doubt I would.

As for "seeing the signs?" My ass. They are hollywood actors, and hide the signs.

See the above post as an example.

I don't have issues with her being faithful or not. Did you understand my post? I would have to be an idiot not to see signs, subtle or overt. There nothing she does that makes me feel like she's unfaithful. Her actions are not congruent with someone I have to worry about being unfaithful. You would have to be an idiot to post here this long and not know the signs.

I'm not going to waste time hiring a detective . If she cheats she cheats. If I find out then she gets dumped. That's it. I don't dwell on thoughts like that. Maybe it works for you but I can't do that.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

This doesn't sound like someone who is 100 percent sure now does it?

What? When someone says "I'd have to be an idiot not to see the signs" it usually means they can be sure know what the signs are. 100 percent sure is an exaggeration. Only a perfect human being is 100% sure about things like this.