Update
I spoke to the wife and we both want to stay in this. The ideal outcome for both of us is that we're together; that's the single most important factor and everything else is noise.
I laid out what I want my future to look like, and she likes what that sounds like. 2nd most important factor.
I asked what her personal goals were. What her perfect life would look like. Mostly, she wants to be happier, more sexual, prettier, have more fun. All of these align with my wants for her. 3rd most important factor - check.
I read a post on TRP about playing with women as if they were little girls, and it finally clicked.
I AMOGed the gymnastics meet my daughter had this weekend. Teased the wife about random stuff. The wife saw me catching some strong IOIs from a couple baddies when lifting together.
She ended up initiating a BJ in broad daylight in the parking lot. She never initiates and we've never done a public BJ before.
She was so turned on by it that she wanted more as soon as we got home.
A few passionate days where we fvcked like we were brand new, and everything looks like it's going to be alright. It's early to tell, but things look promising.
I will still be working on my faults here. I'd like to get a few number closes in, then toss the number; it'll be good for me and good for the relationship (losing scarcity mindset).
Thanks for everyone's input here. It is genuinely appreciated.