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the "loser strips" thing doesn't really do it when you've been married 7 years and seen each other naked pretty much every single day since.make it fun and flirty, idk what games you play but loser starts striping lol
Man, that feeling when I win a Crown in Fall Guys or place 1st in Fortnite. It makes a bad day better and a good day also better. But I usually stop after one Win because I dont want to be addicted.I haven't really played video games since I got married, and I'd actually like to not return to them either. I have a knack for turning to cheap dopamine sources as a means of avoiding negative emotions (eating, p0rn, social media, video games, etc.).
I love it; I'll set it up.One idea: since she's a combative type, she might be into this, and it could start you down the path to goodness. And you love role play.
Schedule a date night with a twist. She's dressed up in a bar or other venue, and you are too, but you arrive separately, not having seen one another beforehand. You approach her as a woman you're trying to pick up. You need to agree beforehand not to break character.
You'd get to practice pickup, and she'd get her ego validation, as would you. Also, if she's done up to the 9s, she might get IOIs - and so might you - you both probably would benefit from it. You can let the roll as far as you'd like. She'd like to challenge you, giving her the go-ahead to act naughty. It could be fun.
I often will do this with chicks I'm meeting for drinks I've known forever; I don't set it up; I do it randomly - they catch on fast and jump into the role. Women love shiit like this.
Play strip pokermake it fun and flirty, idk what games you play but loser starts striping lol
This is good.We're coming back together tonight to hash this stuff out. That means I should find a couple dozen candles for the bedroom; it's good I didn't hit my legs today.
I have never been married but I wouldnt have thought of "talking" about this with her. I would ´ve felt like Im negotiating desire or something, I would´ve have felt feminine telling her my needs are not being met or any variant of that.Update
I talked with the wife a little bit. Told her where I wasn't feeling fulfilled. I touched on the most important parts... Not feeling wanted by the woman I'm promised to spend the next 50+ years with, getting basically duty sex and nothing else,
Yeah, most of what I'm not getting isn't related to sex. Honestly, if these other items were fixed, I think the sex would be fixed by default. I still get laid like 3x a week on a slow week. I'm no longer starving for sex, I've now developed a taste for which kind of sex I like is all. Anyways, that's not what my primary complaint is.I know sex is super important to you, man, but can you keep the conversation you're about to have not overtly sexual?
I'll keep the candles hidden. Sex genuinely isn't the important part here.This is structural stuff. Be sweet and warm to her, do not let her take all the blame, and make yourself seem vulnerable - even if you're not. Switch things up, be novel, but not a cheeseball.
Do not sexualize the encounter. If you have an excellent, loving conversation where you show her something she has not seen much of or at all in you, she's going to be aroused and strongly suggest sex, either overtly or covertly.
Do not jump to the end.
I've gone full redpill approach for months. Agree that negotiating desire isn't going to work, that's also not what I'm aiming at. She does want to sleep with me, and frequently does. Hell, I gave her the strongest orgasm of her life a few weeks ago - it went on for like 6 minutes and she almost passed out.I wouldnt have thought of "talking" about this with her. I would ´ve felt like Im negotiating desire or something, I would´ve have felt feminine telling her my needs are not being met or any variant of that.
I fundamentally believe that all women are submissive somewhere deep down. I have seen bits and pieces of submissiveness coming out while I've been redpilling but I'm aware there is a long road ahead for that to happen.You need to understand that she's a closet sub, as most "strong-willed" women are - but she wants you to "earn" her submissiveness. You have to game her, bro. I would posit that if you can "earn it," she would give you the puppy eyes and adoration you want so badly.
ask her this. "what do you need from me"Update
I talked with the wife a little bit. Told her where I wasn't feeling fulfilled. Not to the full extent of everything I posted in this thread, but I touched on the most important parts... Not feeling wanted by the woman I'm promised to spend the next 50+ years with, getting basically duty sex and nothing else, missing the woman I fell in love with (who she was when we were dating).
Admittedly, I hold blame in this. Not all of it, but enough to know where my areas of improvement are.
But my wife understood where I'm coming from, or she at least seems to understand. She's putting most of the blame on herself. For someone who is a covert feminist that doesn't like the idea of submission, she acts submissive in the strangest times.
We're coming back together tonight to hash this stuff out. I guess that means I should find a couple dozen candles for the bedroom; good thing I didn't hit legs today.
Nooooooooooooooooooooooask her this. "what do you need from me"
You ever been married bro?ask her this. "what do you need from me"
I have but i divorced her ass.You ever been married bro?
This is a 10/10 bad idea.
She gets what she needs from me by protection, provision and penis.
It's the equivalent of saying "describe your ideal man and how I don't compare to him".All I'm saying is sometimes all it takes is a little softer version of yourself outside of the bedroom to get her to submit. Then rail her like the dirty girl she is and you're good man.
I wish you the best man. Hope it works out for you.It's the equivalent of saying "describe your ideal man and how I don't compare to him".
Its just bad math dude.
Softer is fine to an extent, but I will NEVER ask her this.