Franky Four Fingers
Don Juan
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I think what this ultimatum thing boils down to is context.
I guess what I was trying to say is if she's doing something wrong (eg - cheating etc) and you give the "or else", I (nor she) will believe it's an attempt at control and of weakness. She knows she's doing something wrong and you won't tolerate that wrong behavior. An unintentional (no 'chest beating' but to plainly stop bad behavior) position of strength.
If she is doing something normal (eg - girls night out w/no cheating etc) and you don't agree with it and you give an ultimatum THEN that is a position of weakness. That's how I see it anyway.
I personally will never give an 'or else' unless she is clearly doing something wrong/bad behavior/cheating etc. I will however definitely do them when necessary but they are few and far between depending on the woman's behavior of course.
I guess what I was trying to say is if she's doing something wrong (eg - cheating etc) and you give the "or else", I (nor she) will believe it's an attempt at control and of weakness. She knows she's doing something wrong and you won't tolerate that wrong behavior. An unintentional (no 'chest beating' but to plainly stop bad behavior) position of strength.
If she is doing something normal (eg - girls night out w/no cheating etc) and you don't agree with it and you give an ultimatum THEN that is a position of weakness. That's how I see it anyway.
I personally will never give an 'or else' unless she is clearly doing something wrong/bad behavior/cheating etc. I will however definitely do them when necessary but they are few and far between depending on the woman's behavior of course.